Instant messaging, fast apps, viral video’s, life on demand.
Is it any wonder you may feel like you’re a total failure if you don’t have a drive through break through to achieving your dreams?
Change, growth, creating a better life, it’s all part of a process.
Consider this: Do you go outside and plant a seed in the ground expecting it to mature into a full grown tree in twenty minutes? Are you frustrated, filled with negative thoughts or depressed when it doesn’t happen in a moment? No, of course not. Then why would you expect your living human spirit to respond to laws which are made for the technological and mechanical.?
I recently interviewed Rakesh Sarin a researcher and professor from UCLA who discovered after extensive research one of the key factors to experiencing authentic happiness is the individual’s ‘expectations.’
An expectation can be a moving target and enemy shadow tirelessly chasing your peace, contentment and inner joy.
Can you recall a time in your life when you were injured. If you broke your arm or sprained your ankle you automatically had the expectation that it would take time to heal. You were undoubtedly excited and grateful when you saw yourself making progress toward regaining your original condition. You had a new expectation in light of your injury, and therefore a different base line for what made you happy.
Life is a process. Your spiritual growth is a process. Relationships are a process. Learning is a process. Becoming skilled at a task is a process. Healing is a process. If you’re alive, you’re in some stage of a process.
Be gentle with yourself. Whatever goal, dream or vision you have for improving your life takes time. Enjoy the process of becoming. Live in the present moment. Taste it, listen to it, feel it, touch it, breath it in.
Perhaps if you alter the unrealistic expectation that something more needs to happen for life the way it is to be a success, you will suddenly find yourself exchanging stressful restlessness for loving patience.
Next time you feel frustrated that something isn’t happening fast enough for you, remember that your agenda is merely a pre-mediated expectation which hasn’t been given a truthful reality check yet.
Deb Scott, BA, CPC
Deb is Author of the National Four time Award Winner Book in: Self-Help | Motivation | Best New Non-Fiction | Self-Improvement; The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue - , a Certified Professional Coach at Discover the Amazing YOU! Coaching, and host of the Top Rated Best People We Know Show! on Blog Talk Radio. Self HelpRadio
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