Progress NOT Perfection: The Real Deal Success Recipe

As Featured in:  Soul Woman Sanctuary Magazine

Why do some people feel happy with so much less than others who appear to marinate in misery with monetary over flowing abundance? Could it be in the way success is measured? Could it be the easiest way to achieve peace in this life exists in progress vs perfection?

Consider the first man on the moon got to his destination by being in a rocket which was on track perfectly approximately only two percent of the time. Only two percent of the entire journey! Yet, the goal was astonishingly accomplished which changed history forever for all mankind. Was it maintaining perfect progress towards the moon or being perfectly on track which most powerfully propelled ultimate victory?

My point is this; consider measuring your life and goals in terms of progress rather than perfection.

Think of something right now you want very much in your personal life, your business, or even in your family which you don’t yet have. Consider the progress you have made in this area in the last year, two years or even ten years, and ask yourself if you don’t instantaneously feel more inspired, uplifted and hopeful.

Realize you might not be where you want to be, but you’re definitely not where you use to be!


 
So next time you need a little jolt of joy in your life journey, adjust your internal thermometer to focus on the great amount of progress you have made in learning, growing, changing and adjusting to the inevitable ups and downs of life, instead of comparing and despairing in the futile illusion of being perfect. The truth is; progress IS perfection.

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC is a four-time award winning author of “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue,” and a top rated Best Podcaster winner of “The Best People We Know Show” on blog talk radio, stitcher and player FM with over 1 million global listeners.  Deb spent twenty years as a cardiovascular surgical specialist, winning numerous awards for outstanding sales and leadership skills.  In her personal life, Deb battled sexual abuse, others’ alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, depression, was the sole caregiver to both her parents who fought cancer to their death, and even experienced financial devastation.  Today, Deb helps people turn things around in their business, or the business of living, with the discovery of the amazing you. Sign up for Deb’s free mind vitamin monthly newsletter at:  http://www.GreenSkyandBlueGrass.com  

How to Create a Wow Life

If you’re like me, you probably want a wow life, and you want it yesterday. Consider the idea you’re wow is only in the now, and living the life you love, demands you love the skin you’re already in.

“I’ll be happy when I have —–“; I’ll be less stressed when —- changes —–“; or “I’ll take a vacation when —— is finally finished.” Do any of these sound vaguely familiar to you?

Expectations can often be pre-mediated resentments. Change your expectations, shift your gratitude meter, and alter your level of peace and emotional happiness.

The child who survives on drinking dirty water on a daily basis thinks pure joy is having clean running water in his/her home. The abused wife who battles bruising beatings every week dreams of meeting a man who would never communicate with his fist. The husband and wife who just lost their only child to cancer look at every couple with the chaotic craziness of five kids as having it all. Do you see what I mean?

The next question is obvious; how can you make your now your wow?

In the same way you need breaks for your car; you need reliable breaks for your stinking thinking mind at moments as well. You need to have sure stoppers ready and available to halt your mind to steer clear of the catastrophe to give up the hope of a better past. Idealizing a future which may never exist is only going to borrow sorrow from tomorrow.

Create some breaks. Write down your greatest fear on a piece of paper. Underneath it, write down someone who has experienced that fear and overcome it successfully. Finally, draw an image, symbol, or paste a photo of how you feel when the fear is overcome with a positive result. Use this picture as a trigger to turn your mind around into the wow of now.

For example; if you fear losing your job – write that down. Then – write down someone who got fired and ended up with an even better job in life because of being fired. Say, Walt Disney. Then, create your emotional image, perhaps a person smiling at the top of a mountain which reminds you to keep going no matter what obstacle you meet along the way to remember you’re not finished yet.

My point is this; to embrace your wow in the now, you must let go of that confusing mind chatter to buy the lie that something more is required to feel the happiness you seek in this very moment. Walls are made of wasteful wallowing, and smiles are made with the multitude of miracles moving in this very moment.

 

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC  is a four-time award winning author of “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue,”  and a top rated Best Podcaster winner of “The Best People We Know Show” with over 1 million global listeners.  Deb spent twenty years as a cardiovascular surgical specialist, winning numerous awards for outstanding sales and leadership skills.  In her personal life, Deb battled sexual abuse, others’ alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, depression, was the sole caregiver to both her parents who fought cancer to their death, and even experienced financial devastation.  Today, Deb helps people turn things around in their business, or the business of living, with the discovery of the amazing you – See more at: http://www.greenskyandbluegrass.com

The Process

 

The "Process"

Instant messaging, fast apps, viral video’s, life on demand.

Is it any wonder you may feel like you’re a total failure if you don’t have a drive through break through to achieving your dreams?

Change, growth, creating a better life, it’s all part of a process.

Consider this:  Do you go outside and plant a seed in the ground expecting it to mature into a full grown tree in twenty minutes? Are you frustrated, filled with negative thoughts or depressed when it doesn’t happen in a moment? No, of course not. Then why would you expect your living human spirit to respond to laws which are made for the technological and mechanical.?

I recently interviewed Rakesh Sarin a researcher and professor from UCLA who discovered after extensive research one of the key factors to experiencing authentic happiness is the individual’s ‘expectations.’

An expectation can be a moving target and enemy shadow tirelessly chasing your peace, contentment and inner joy.

Can you recall a time in your life when you were injured. If you broke your arm or sprained your ankle you automatically had the expectation that it would take time to heal. You were undoubtedly excited and grateful when you saw yourself making progress toward regaining your original condition. You had a new expectation in light of your injury, and therefore a different base line for what made you happy.

Life is a process. Your spiritual growth is a process. Relationships are a process. Learning is a process. Becoming skilled at a task is a process. Healing is a process. If you’re alive, you’re in some stage of a process.

 

"Am I ready yet?"

 

Be gentle with yourself. Whatever goal, dream or vision you have for improving your life takes time. Enjoy the process of becoming. Live in the present moment. Taste it, listen to it, feel it, touch it, breath it in.

It's All A Process

Perhaps if you alter the unrealistic expectation that something more needs to happen for life the way it is to be a success, you will suddenly find yourself exchanging stressful restlessness for loving patience.

Next time you feel frustrated that something isn’t happening fast enough for you, remember that your agenda is merely a pre-mediated expectation which hasn’t been given a truthful reality check yet.

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC

Deb is Author of the National Four time Award Winner Book in: Self-Help | Motivation | Best New Non-Fiction | Self-Improvement; The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue - , a Certified Professional Coach at Discover the Amazing YOU! Coaching, and host of the Top Rated Best People We Know Show! on Blog Talk Radio. Self HelpRadio

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Mom’s Choice Awards Announces…

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

November 2011
Mom’s Choice Award
The International “Mom’s Choice 2011″ Awards

The Mom’s Choice Awards Honors the Best in Family Friendly Media, Products and Services.

Author and Speaker Deb Scott is Award-Winning Silver Medalist, – in the Self-ImprovementAdult Books category of the “Mom’s Choice 2011” Awards.

The Sky is Green and the Grass is Blue -turning your upside down world right side up!”

The Mom’s Choice Awards® (MCA) is an international annual awards program that recognizes authors, inventors, companies, parents and others for their efforts in creating a quality benchmark for family-friendly media, products and services.
Parents, educators, librarians and retailers look for the Mom’s Choice Awards Honoring Excellence seal of approval when selecting quality materials for children and families.

An esteemed panel of judges includes education, media and other experts as well as parents, children, librarians, performing artists, producers, medical and business professionals, authors, scientists and others.

A sampling of the panel members includes: Dr. Twila C. Liggett, ten-time Emmy-winner, professor and founder of PBS’s Reading Rainbow; Julie Aigner-Clark, Creator of Baby Einstein and The Safe Side Project; Jodee Blanco, New York Times best-selling author, Priscilla Dunstan, creator of the Dunstan Baby Language; Patricia Rossi, host of NBC’s Manners Minute; Dr. Letitia S. Wright, D.C., host of the Wright Place™ TV Show; and Catherine Witcher, M.Ed., special needs expert and founder of Precision Education, Inc.

MCA judges are bound by a strict code of ethics which ensures expert and objective analysis free from any manufacturer association.
The evaluation process uses a propriety methodology in which entries are scored on a number of elements including production quality, design, educational value, entertainment value, originality, appeal and cost.

To be considered for an award, each entrant submits five identical samples of a product. Entries are matched to judges in the MCA database. Judges perform a thorough analysis and submit a detailed assessment. Results are compiled and submitted to the MCA Executive Committee for Final approval.

The end result is a list of the best in family-friendly media, products and services that parents and educators can feel confident in using.

For more information on the awards program and the honorees, visit MomsChoiceAwards.com.
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Multiple Award Winner

This is the third national award “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue” has been honored to receive. The book also won Best in Motivational Book finalist in 2010, in the National INDE Next Generation Book Awards and Best New Non-Fiction Finalist, USA Best Book Awards.

A great gift for you or someone you know. Get your copy of “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue!” today on Amazon and Barnes & Noble.com, or a bookstore near you through Ingram Distributors.

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Self Improvement – How to make Change Permanent

Do you want to be your best?

Oh yea!

In a recent poll most people agreed being your best is a top priority. The real question appeared to be, “How do I make the necessary changes to achieve my very best?”

It may be easier for you to make changes in your behavior, if you understand how your brain changes when you perform a new task.   

Your Brain is Alive

” The changes that occur in the brain when learning or performing something new can be explained by neuroplasticity or brain plasticity.”

Study Your Mind

“In the late 1960s and early 1970s, neuroscientists started making unexpected discoveries about the previously considered unchanging brain. They found that the brain can change its function and structure when it performed different activities — it “perfected” its neurological circuits until it was better able to handle the task at hand. Neuroscientists started calling this fundamental brain property, “brain plasticity” or “neuroplasticity.”   

Break Bad Habits

Now you can have hope to break bad habits permanently and with the success you desire to live the happy life you deserve!   

Repeated actions of the new behavior, and subsequently the good feelings associated with them, will become rooted in the fabric of who you are with each action you implement.  Learning and practicing will actually “change” your brain function, transforming bad habits into good.

Rewiring Your Brain for Change

Focusing on setting yourself up for success is imperative.  You must “successfully sabotage” yourself to guarantee you will do the actions required to rewire your brain.    

Norman Doidge, MD, a psychiatrist and researcher, has investigated neuroplasticity in detail.  His case histories detailastonishing progress of people whose conditions had long been dismissed as hopeless. We see a woman born with half a brain that rewired itself to work as a whole, a woman labeled retarded who cured her deficits with brain exercises, learning disorders cured, IQs raised, aging brains rejuvenated, and entrenched depression and anxiety disappearing.”   

Premeditated Success

The key to unlock the door into your new best life rests in your dedication to repeat the new behavior with enthusiastic tenacity.  Setting yourself up with a premeditated plan to execute the new behavior, even when you don’t feel like doing it, is a powerful tool you can use.   

Start Now!

Here are 3 Do’s for You

D efine 
What is it you want to achieve?  What bad habit do you want to eliminate?  What new feeling do you want to experience?   

D ream
Visualize your new life experiencing your new feelings and behavior.  What does it look like?  Who are you with?  What are you doing?  Where are you doing it?  What is your impact on others?  How do you feel?    

D ecide
Now that you have defined the new behavior and feeling changes you want to enjoy, and the experience you have visualized these new changes will produce, you need to decide to accept them.  You need to embrace your new reality.  You must decide to set yourself up for success with a fail-safe action plan that is result oriented.  Practice “successful sabotage.”  

Don’t let your happiness come from other peoples mind.  Tranform the structure of your brain to function at its very best.  Begin now.  You’re worth the effort!

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