5 Tips to Keep Your Peace

 
 
 

Get Me Out of Here!

Are your days hectic, busy, and filled with unexpected obstacles to overcome? Do you feel like you need a break from the stress? Good news! You’re not alone in feeling the chaos, and now you won’t be alone in learning new ways to keep your peace.

Imagine you are an Olympic athlete walking on a balancing beam. You are deep in focus to perform your task perfectly on a three inch wide beam. You have practiced this move more times than you can count, and your confidence is strong. You begin your jump with focused momentum, when suddenly a loud distracting noise goes off in the stadium. The event surprises you, and captures your attention just long enough to cause you to lose a bit of your footing. You’ve trained tirelessly, and with anticipated interception to overcome an error in your landing, you quickly regain your balance to complete the move with majestic success. Congratulations! The applause from the crowd is only surpassed by the joy beaming out of your heart.

"I adjust my Balance Easily."

Maintaining your inner peace is a lot like that balancing act. You need to accept the unexpected is part of the process, and train yourself to successfully overcome the inevitable obstacles when they occur. You need to have the tools readily accessible to combat the confusion.

Here are 5 Terrific Tips to Keep Your Peace.

1. “What can I learn from this?”

One of the best ways to detach yourself from the emotional turmoil is to seek the solution in the problem. The gift of more peace may be wrapped in disguise. Is someone always criticizing you for never doing “it” good enough? Consider this as an opportunity to set better boundaries from negative people in your life. You may be able to learn how to practice letting go of this toxic personality in your life, which will help you avoid more of the same poisionous brand in the future. Always interrupt the disturbance with this thought, “What can I learn from this?”

2. Calling my rescue team!

Get into this habit, and practice it often. Ask for help from your spiritual rescue team. It doesn’t do you any good to have a million dollars in the bank if you don’t know it’s there, and you can’t enjoy the benefits of spiritual strength if you don’t ask your spiritual support team for assistance. Put the breaks on a chaotic encounter, or emotional disturbance, with a silent prayer for protection. God, your angels, the saints, family members who have passed on, they are all in your corner cheering you on to overcome any obstacle. Knowing you have a heaven sent support system at any moment you need, is a fail-safe security system. “Help!” is always a good start.

3. “What is my emotional temperature?”

Implement a new way of thinking which recognizes what comes out of someone else’s mouth is not necessarily the truth about you. The other person’s action igniting a reaction in you, is a good indicator of something YOU need to get healed. Consider the feeling of stress a temperature reading of your spiritual health. Are you way above normal? Feeling the fumes? Too hot to handle? Realize this awareness is a gift. Salt only hurts on an open wound, and if something hurts, that something in you needs to be healed. Awareness is key. A wound once healed is stronger than before, and the same came be true for you.

4. Practice Successful Sabotage

Set yourself up for success when the unavoidable storms hit you in the face. Hurricane winds may pass by you by, but they don’t have to uproot you if your deeply dug into solid ground. Sabotaging yourself for success is taking premeditated action to win the war against the battlefield of the mind. If you know your boss is going to be unreasonable during the day, make sure you have effective mind vitamins to counteract the negativity. Positive affirmations, favorite quotes, images which bring you peace, anything you know makes you feel happy and empowered should be strategically placed and readily available at your fingertips. Surround yourself with the fragrance of success. Breath in your ability to overcome any adversity. You are a champion!

5. Look for the humor in the horror.

Studies show laughter releases endorphins, which makes you feel good. Seeking solutions with a sense of humor will help you detach from the negative feelings, and open your mind to fresh choices. Sometimes the catastrophe can be the cure. If you have been seeking more quiet time alone, the fact your car broke down right after you ran out of gas, could be a unexpected opportunity to sit in silence while you wait for the tow truck. You can’t hear the kids screaming now! Laughter is a great medicine without any side effects. “Don’t take life too seriously, you’ll never get out alive.” Ebbert Hubbard.

The key to keeping your peace is having a solid, readily available, armamentarium to fight the peace killers successfully. Understanding you can’t stop the negative events, but you can stop their accompanying negative feelings from contaminating you further, is part of your winning equation.

Begin now. You’re worth the effort!

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Self Improvement – How to make Change Permanent

Do you want to be your best?

Oh yea!

In a recent poll most people agreed being your best is a top priority. The real question appeared to be, “How do I make the necessary changes to achieve my very best?”

It may be easier for you to make changes in your behavior, if you understand how your brain changes when you perform a new task.   

Your Brain is Alive

” The changes that occur in the brain when learning or performing something new can be explained by neuroplasticity or brain plasticity.”

Study Your Mind

“In the late 1960s and early 1970s, neuroscientists started making unexpected discoveries about the previously considered unchanging brain. They found that the brain can change its function and structure when it performed different activities — it “perfected” its neurological circuits until it was better able to handle the task at hand. Neuroscientists started calling this fundamental brain property, “brain plasticity” or “neuroplasticity.”   

Break Bad Habits

Now you can have hope to break bad habits permanently and with the success you desire to live the happy life you deserve!   

Repeated actions of the new behavior, and subsequently the good feelings associated with them, will become rooted in the fabric of who you are with each action you implement.  Learning and practicing will actually “change” your brain function, transforming bad habits into good.

Rewiring Your Brain for Change

Focusing on setting yourself up for success is imperative.  You must “successfully sabotage” yourself to guarantee you will do the actions required to rewire your brain.    

Norman Doidge, MD, a psychiatrist and researcher, has investigated neuroplasticity in detail.  His case histories detailastonishing progress of people whose conditions had long been dismissed as hopeless. We see a woman born with half a brain that rewired itself to work as a whole, a woman labeled retarded who cured her deficits with brain exercises, learning disorders cured, IQs raised, aging brains rejuvenated, and entrenched depression and anxiety disappearing.”   

Premeditated Success

The key to unlock the door into your new best life rests in your dedication to repeat the new behavior with enthusiastic tenacity.  Setting yourself up with a premeditated plan to execute the new behavior, even when you don’t feel like doing it, is a powerful tool you can use.   

Start Now!

Here are 3 Do’s for You

D efine 
What is it you want to achieve?  What bad habit do you want to eliminate?  What new feeling do you want to experience?   

D ream
Visualize your new life experiencing your new feelings and behavior.  What does it look like?  Who are you with?  What are you doing?  Where are you doing it?  What is your impact on others?  How do you feel?    

D ecide
Now that you have defined the new behavior and feeling changes you want to enjoy, and the experience you have visualized these new changes will produce, you need to decide to accept them.  You need to embrace your new reality.  You must decide to set yourself up for success with a fail-safe action plan that is result oriented.  Practice “successful sabotage.”  

Don’t let your happiness come from other peoples mind.  Tranform the structure of your brain to function at its very best.  Begin now.  You’re worth the effort!

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Finding Your Way to Happiness

Happy Mind Vitamins 4 You!

What are you feeding your mind today?  Did you take your happy mind vitamins yet?  Remember, you are what you eat!

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Take Hold of Happiness

Research shows your mind does not distinguish between the reality of a situation you experience, and the visualizing of an experience you create. Your mind considers both events as real, and therefore ignites the cascade of response accordingly. First, your thoughts, then your feelings created by the thoughts, and then a behavior as a consequence of the thoughts and feelings.
If this is true, then you should be able to increase your good feelings at a mathematical rate proportional to the good thoughts you input into your mind.

Thoughts -> Feelings -> Actions

Good News For You
Let’s take this principal one step further, and consider the opportunity to “rewrite” the script in your mind.
Perhaps you get a consistent bad feeling every time you pay your bills on line . It feels nearly impossible for you to create a good feeling from a bad feeling producing behavior – paying your bills (who really enjoys paying their bills?). This may be true for you.

ReWrite Your Brain

Did you know you can insert a good thought, which produces a good feeling into the displeasure action, which can help overwrite the feeling you experience from that displeasure task? You can!

Make Yourself Smile Now

For example, you could play a positive blog talk radio interview in the background on your computer, while you are paying those bills. Listening to the happy mind vitamins from the radio show, while you are doing the negative task at hand, offers your mind the opportunity to focus on the new information you are feeding it to process. I like to call this effort, “successful sabotage” because you are deliberately sabotaging yourself for success.

The Mind is a Terrible Thing to Waste

Your mind is capable of numerous tasks simultaneously. Just because you haven’t experienced success in changing your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to date, doesn’t mean your mind can’t achieve the goal with tremendous success. Don’t believe me?
Click Here to listen to my recent interview get-happy with People Coach, Elizabeth Lengyel. It’s free! Download and recycle the happy mind vitamins again and again, as needed. The positive results are limitless!

Stand next to manure and smell like manure.

Stand next to perfume, and smell fragrant too.

Be careful what and who you surround yourself with, because without any effort from you, the effect automatically rubs off onto YOU. Surrounding yourself with positive affirmations, knowledge, and ideas, will faithfully generate the same.

Free Mind Vitamins

I love utilizing blog talk radio as one of my happy mind vitamins tools in my armamentarium of building a solid happy life. Real life resources are available on demand, twenty four hours a day, seven days a week at no charge! How great is that?! The only cost to you and me, is the time it takes to set your reminder, or follow a show Viola!
I created, “The Best People We Know Radio Show!” to fill a need for happy mind vitamins. I am passionate about offering you a steady source of solutions to problems. Antibiotics against diseases of the mind. Committed to helping YOU be the best person you were created to be! Many BTR hosts are dedicated to the same, and I encourage you to investigate each one for your own happiness therapy.
You CAN take mind vitamins which help you get from; hopeless to hopeful; good to great; average to extraordinary. The choice is yours. Don’t miss the opportunity to be happy. You’re worth the effort!

I Have the Power to Decide

Deb Scott is a Certified Professional Coach, and author of the award winning book; “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue-turning your upside down world right side up!”
You can enjoy the benefits of having Deb as your Personal Empowerment Results Coach via Discover the Amazing YOU! Coaching, following Deb’s “Best People We Know Radio Show,” and ordering her book “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue” today, on Amazon.

The Happiness Quiz: Which One of These are YOU?

The Happiness Quiz: Which one of these are you?

That’s the topic of a recent pollI posted on my Linkedin Community. The overall results, and the breakdown in; age, gender, and job titles were amazing.

Sharing is caring, so here’s the quiz – (perhaps you want to take it now before read the rest of the story?!)

Which one of the following most reduces your ability to be happy?

  • Problem People in my life.
  • Other.
  • Negative &/or Distorted Thinking.
  • My Health.
  • Not enough money.

Here’s the overall results:

Happiness Quiz - Overall Results

“Experts attribute about 50% of a person’s happiness to genetic endowments and another 10% to circumstances – where we live, how much money we make, how healthy we are.”

Good News! This means you have 40% of your own happiness within your control!

The first step toward achieving any new action is awareness. Once you are aware of what may be catalyzing your unhappiness, you can accept it, and inject a new response to create a new result.

Let’s take a look at the Happiness Quiz Breakdown:

By Age:

Happiness Quz - By Age

By Gender:

Happiness Quiz - By Gender

By Job Title:

Happiness Quiz - Job Title

By Job Function:

Happiness Quiz - Job Function

and last but not least..

By Company Size :

Happiness Quiz - Company Size

Do these results surprise you?  The fact most people found thier distorded thinking the primary happiness obstacle VS  how much money they had, was amazing.

Money can’t buy you happiness. In fact, the pursuit to make a lot of may be stealing your happiness!

Psycholigist conducted a study on this topic using data from the Bureau of Labor Statistics. Check out this extremely telling information:

“Men making more than $100,000 per year spend 19.9 percent of their time on passive leisure, compared to 34.7 percent for men making less than $20,000. ”

“Women making more than $100,000 spend 19.6 percent of their time on passive leisure, compared with 33.5 percent of those making less than $20,000.”

“Wealthy people, it seems, spend so much time chasing the money that they don’t have enough time left to use in a way that makes them happy. People with lower incomes spend more time enjoying themselves.”

So don’t believe the lie you can’t be happy in these tough economic times.  Most of your happiness depends on the moods your thoughts create-  not the amount of money you have to make.

Scientist report “even small improvements in mood can have positive cascading effects.” These seemingly simple strategies, promise powerful lasting results.

The take-a-way;  your commitment to being consistent and persistent using your happiness tools, is the golden key to unlocking your happiness door.

“Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.” Aristotle

Here are some tips to turn the insanity of unhappiness into the clarity of powerful happy producing habits:

  • 1. Accept ‘You don’t know what you don’t know.”If you don’t know every piece of information on planet earth – you have a reciprocal amount of ideas which you have the opportunity to learn, to help you be happy. That’s a lot of information!
  • 2. Practice “Successful Sabotage”If self-sabotage is setting yourself up for failure, successful sabotage can be setting yourself up for success! Strategically placing positive affirmations, photo’s, or even trinkets, in places where you will be forced to stumble upon them throughout your day, can ignite a positive cascade in your head. Consistency conquers
  • 3. Be a “2 Minute Volunteer” You can’t give what you don’t have, and you can’t have, what you’re not willing to give away. Why not share your favorite affirmation on a sticky note – in your bills, to the people you work with, attach it to your email’s? It’s not the amount of physical time you take to volunteer, it’s the sincerity in your heart with which you give the love away, which matters.

You spend more time with YOU than anyone else. If you can’t enjoy your own company, how do you expect anyone else to?!

Your self-talk is built by your thoughts. Apparently we each have 50,000 thoughts per day. (Who is it that measures these things!) Unfortunately for many the vast majority of those 50,000 are repetitive, negative thoughts – focused on the things you should have done, things that went wrong, how you aren’t good enough, the list goes on.”

Remember, each one of these conversations you’re having with yourself in your head, is being reinforced and recorded in your memory. Not only the thought, but the accompanying positive or negative feeling it ignites – again and again!

You have a choice. Dedicate yourself to implementing strategies which help you win the battle in your mind. Recruit a solid strong army of amazing positive change agents in your head, and dump the junk those negative demolition demons seek to repeat.

Don’t let your happiness come from other people’s minds. Get involved in the direction and quality of your life this very moment. If fact, CONGRATULATIONS! by reading this article  you’ve already begun.

Remember – You’re Worth the Effort!

 
 
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Get more Love in Your Life!

Who doesn’t want more Love in their life? Don’t you want to feel happy, cherished, and treasured? Loving the Love!

Here’s a simple and short equation for how to get more love in your life.

You are how you see!

You Are How You See!

Your eyes are the gateway to your mind, which is the gateway to your thoughts, which is the gateway to creating your feelings, which is the gateway to producing your actions, which is the gateway to creating the person called you. You are your actions!

If your eyes are designed in the shape of love, everything you see will automatically sculpture the image to fit your frame. You see the world as you are, not as it is.

Are your eyes designed to look for the shape of love?

What do you do when you want to see more clearly? You get a pair of glasses to magnify what you want to see, which you can not see on your own power. The glasses become an extension of you, doing for you what you can not do for yourself. No shame in that!

Grab your love glasses and magnify the love you seek to see,
and watch the entire landscape come into
crystal clear view for you!

Exercise-

  • Write down one person and one situation you want to see more lovingly.
  • Now, write down what “more loving” looks and feels like for you on a separate piece of paper.
  • Find a photo which magnifies the feeling of these words (magazine to stick figure works!)
  • Post this image where you will see it at least two times in a day. Bathroom mirror, car dash, coffee pot, the front of the fridge.
  • Start feeling the love!

Here’s what you just did.

You identified a problem and made a decision to change how you feel when you look at it. Then you clearly told yourself what the new feeling of love would look and feel like. Next, you sealed the new deal by taking action, to “successful sabotage” your mind to magnify the positive picture and erase the negative.

The Eyes of LOVE

Your mind will automatically seek ways to achieve the result it is being reinforced to view. You are going to get more of the love you see, the way you want to be.

If you want more love in your life, give yourself the gift through tapping into your eyes alive. You are what you see.

Live Out-loud to Vividly Experience your Life of Love Now!

See Love! Speak Love! Feel Love!

Positive & Negative People – Are You Good Garnish?

Gotta’ love it!

That little jazz-of-pizzazz which delights the dish, sparkles the eyes with a surprise, and magnifies the meal in a moment. Yes, good garnish makes any ordinary dish extraordinarily spectacular in every possible way!

Good Garnish Makes the Dish!

Garnish - defined by Websters Dictionary is “to decorate (food) with something that adds color or flavor.”

This past week I was doing a radio show with host of the “Hatched Egg”, Amy Furbee, and we were talking about the issue of becoming who we associate with. Surrounding yourself with positive or negative people, definitely has an effect on YOU, whether you want it to or not.

Stand next to perfume or manure long enough,
and guess how you’ll soon be smelling?!

Suddenly, Amy interjected,

“It’s like my husband and I always say – Is that person Good Garnish?”

Are YOU Good Garnish?

WOW! I love that analogy – because it resonates truth beyond compare.

The people you chose to associate with, are either good garnish in a true blue right side up world, or distasteful wilted garnish in a green sky upside down world. You must decide what you will allow by your side.

A little bit of garnish, possess a powerful impact on what the whole plate looks like. Think about how just a little piece of something, makes such an enormous difference on the larger portion. Doesn’t the concept make you pause and reflect?

Next time you feel agitated around someone, or perhaps just a little confused, ask yourself, “Is this person”Good Garnish”in my life?”

You may decide you need a different ornament decorating your sustenance. If you’re plate is already full, adding even the smallest sour flavor could be a major killer tipping point which destroys your whole meal.

Who is Good or Bad garnish in your life today? Are you Good Garnish for the people you meet?

You are what you eat. Bon appetite… and Cheers!

Bon Appetite & Cheers!

Finding Jewels in the Crown of Your Life

Who doesn’t love jewels?

Jewels are precious and valuable finds everywhere on planet earth, and in the midst of chaos or confusion, jewels sparkle regardless of any condition in the day.

What Jewels are in YOUR Crown?

What are your jewels, your treasures, the people, places, and things you value? Want to know who you most authentically are? Look at what, and who you value in your life.  You are whowhat you associate with.

How can this help you be happier? If you know what matters to you most, you can compare and contrasts the life you lead accordingly.

If you value peace, do you associate with people who promote peace? If you value fidelity, do you associate with people who do the same? If you value honesty, do you have friends who live an honest life?

You see, the people you associate with screams like a banner large in the sky about who you most genuinely desire to be, and most truthfully live to be.

 
 
 

The Diamond of YOU!

There can be no confusion in what you are, with you who you associate with. It is critical you think about what you are thinking about. It is equally as important you discern who you associate with, and why.

The people who surround the circle of your life, tell you and the world you live in, who you are, what you value, and what you desire to become. The values who make you the person you are.

If you tell someone you love them, but hit them in the face, the words are a lie.

Actions are the only thermometer you can use
to measure the truth of a situation.

If you want to be truly “happy” you have to be at peace with the values you hold dear, and the desires of your heart. There can be no truth in lies. You must accept what you do speaks louder than what you say.

The most precious jewelers in your life are the one’s you treasure most. Only you can decide who they are.

Every person you accept into your circle of friends is either bringing you closer towards that goal, or away from it. Each person is a jewel in the crown of your life, but only you can decide what that crown will look like.

Your are a jewel. Who wants you in the crown of their life?

What Jewel are YOU?

Stepping into YOUR Spectacular!

Stepping into Your Spectacular!  

(as seen in All Books Review; Inpsiration;  Words of Wisdom)

You crave it, seek it, attempt to keep it, and never tire of acquiring more of it.

 

Jump In!

Your happiness!

The happiness you dream to achieve in becoming your brilliant best. Your most creative self. Expressing the essence of who you are from heart to hand, in a brilliant package of blinding super fine shine. What could be better than this?!

Stepping into your spectacular guarantees happiness, because whenever you express your passionate desires, you are keeping the promise to be who you are authentically created to be.

There is no right or wrong to being you. Is your left leg wrong, and your right leg right? Or is it the right leg is wrong, and the left leg is right?

No, both legs are different for a reason, and you don’t argue with your feet as you walk to where you want to go. You accept that the differences in each leg assists you in getting to your desired location.

Stepping into your spiritual creative spectacular is much the same way.
You need all elements of your passions, dreams, and inspirations to help you move towards your greatness.

Your expression of this magnificence is as unique as your very own face. Happiness is a one-of-a-kind find, designed just for you.

If you have a nagging desire to accomplish some goal, (maybe finish that book?) accept this feeling is not going away for a healthy reason. You must take a step forward and place action behind the emotion. One small step leads to one greater, with more momentum to fuel the next.

Stepping into your spectacular is the most unselfish action you could ever perform. The world needs you.

If you don’t become your very best, who will?

The Diamond of YOU!

Award winning author, Deb Scott, has written a new inspirational book with lessons from the heart and soul. The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue, is turning around lives with a powerful message full of truth and understanding. If you are ready to turn your upside down world right side up, take the first step today. Deb’s book is now available at: Amazon, Barnes &  Nobel.com, and bookstores through Ingram. Get Inspired Now.

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You Go Girl!

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Do YOU have something upside down  in your life which you want to transform right side up? 

Optimism is not out of style.  From your ears into your head and heart, these tools will help you build the happy life you desire and deserve!

So Hit play Now, and take an empowering trip to Happy Island, on Peace beach, and enjoy the walk through Serenity Sand! 

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Don’t give up 5 minutes before the miracle!

GFMG Your Way to Happiness!

(As seen in Power Women Magazine; by Deb Scott)

I have often said there needs to be a 12 step program for everyone.

A way to live with more self-awareness, detachment, acceptance and peace. A place of resourceful strength able to effectively kill those negative liar voices, the ones who seek to steal the precious positive real estate in your head.

Join the Party!

How and why do the 12 step programs help achieve your happy dream?

Imagine the steps are more simply broken down into four quadrants, or four pieces in a larger pie, or strong spokes in a wheel.

GFMG:

>The first set of 3 steps are about; Giving up
>The second set of 3 steps are about; Fessing up
>The third set of 3 steps are about; Making up
>The last set of 3 are about; Growing up

When we give up control of any situation, we are open to consider things we don’t know.

Once we are open to new ideas, we can see our part in any given circumstance, and focus on the only thing we have any control over anyway, and that would be us.

Once we are open and aware, we naturally want to heal any wounds by making up with the gift of forgiveness. Forgiving ourselves, and the other person, whether they deserve it or not.

Eventually, the process naturally helps us grow up and live life, on life’s terms. We stop the never-ending battle of wishing things were different, and accept things are what they are, grateful we did the best we could at the time with the information we had.

Gratitude for having learned valuable wisdom for the present moment and unwritten future.

It’s all a process.

The 12 Steps:

1. We admitted we were powerless over (insert your problem) —that our lives had become unmanageable.

2. Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.

3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.

4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

5. Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

6. We’re entirely ready to have God remove our shortcomings.

7. Humbly asked him to remove our shortcomings.

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood him, praying only for knowledge of his will for us and the power to carry that out.

12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all of our affairs.

Trees don’t grow twenty feet overnight, and neither does anything in the diamond of a person known as “you.”

GFMG is a winning equation you can always use to never lose!

CONGRATULATIONS! You're On Your Way Today!