This Story will Shift the Way You Think about Stress Forever

A young lady confidently walked around the Room with a raised glass of water while

Leading a seminar and explaining Stress Management to her audience. Everyone knew she

Was going to ask the ultimate question, ‘Half Empty or half full?’

She fooled them all.   “How Heavy is this glass of water?” she inquired With a smile.

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. To 20 oz .

She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t Matter. It depends on how long I hold it.

If I Hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my

Right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an Ambulance. In each case it’s the same weight,

But the longer I hold it, the heavier it Becomes.”  She continued, “and that’s the way it is with Stress.

If we carry our burdens all The time, sooner or later, as the burden Becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able

To carry on.”  “As with the glass of water, you have to put It down for a while and rest before holding it

Again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on With the burden – holding stress longer and

Better each time practiced.  So, as early in the evening as you can, put All your burdens down. Don’t carry them

Through the evening and into the night. Pick Them up again tomorrow if you must.

Deb Scott, BA, CPC is a four-time award winning author of “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue,” and a top rated Best Podcaster winner of “The Best People We Know Show” on blog talk radio, stitcher and player FM with over 1 million global listeners.  Deb spent twenty years as a cardiovascular surgical specialist, winning numerous awards for outstanding sales and leadership skills.  In her personal life, Deb battled sexual abuse, others’ alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, depression, was the sole caregiver to both her parents who fought cancer to their death, and even experienced financial devastation.  Today, Deb helps people turn things around in their business, or the business of living, with the discovery of the amazing you. Sign up for Deb’s free mind vitamin monthly newsletter at:  http://www.GreenSkyandBlueGrass.com 

The Allergic to Negative People Pollution Solution

Pollution of every kind certainly catalyzes a visceral response of suffocation, oppression and even depression. “Let me out! I can’t breathe!” That’s what I’m talking about. Pollution that kills and destroys and sucks the life out of you. Pollution that you can visibly see, affect and avoid. Pollution you know is dangerous to your life and accept is all bad for your health. Pollution you don’t want in your life.

But what about the people who pollute your life with stress, anxiety, confusion and constant chaos? What about the people who pollute your life with manipulation, deceit and despair? What about the people who pollute your life with jealousy, rage and anger? What can you do to rid yourself of people pollution such as these?

People Pollution that negatively contaminates the environment of your life is a viral plague of poisonous people who need to be purposely pruned right out of your life.

What’s the pollution solution? How do you clear the smog of people pollution in your life? How do you cleanse your life from the symptoms of this contagious disease?

Smog be gone. Here’s four ways to quickly inject an antibiotic against the effects of this people pollution plague which silently infects the life of many innocent souls. It’s an easy recipe of mind vitamins to feed your whole soul and nurture your spirit with new strength and power to create renewed resistance against this saturating sickness.

1. People Pollution Exists – Accept it.

There is great power in accepting things as they are instead of how you want them to be. Why? Because when you accept the truth of a situation, you are free to make better choices with this knowledge. You must accept some people actually enjoy creating and being immersed in pollution, consciously or unconsciously. Your being uncomfortable with their polluting behavior will not motivate them to change, but it can help you change to feel better.

2. It’s not your fault – Don’t try to justify.

You did not cause the other person to create polluting behavior, and you can’t cure them of it either. Don’t accept unacceptable behavior. Resist the desire to justify bad polluting behavior, or think there is anything you can say or do to change the results of a polluter.

3. Decide for different – Imagine better possibilities & outcomes.

Once you decide you don’t want to be around polluting behavior you are ready to imagine new outcomes and better possibilities of not having that type of negatively affect you. You don’t know what you don’t know. Consider how much energy you will have available to do positive things in your life, when you get back all the precious energy you were expending trying to fight the people who were polluting your life.

4. Spread your Shine – Purify the pollution with positivity.

Let your positive sunshine burn their polluting smog right out of your life. Sticking to your positive standards of peace, compassion, creativity, enthusiasm, faith and confidence in a brighter day to keep you above the clouds like the sun in the sky. The best protection against people pollution is pollution rejection.

The winning equation to your sensational success in being free from the bad fruit of polluting people is accepting people pollution exists. Having a simple strategy to reject the effects of people who negatively pollute your life is a great way to build up a powerful immunity against this deadly disease.        

                                                                                           

Deb Scott, BA, CPC  is a four-time award winning author of “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue,”  and a top rated Best Podcaster winner of “The Best People We Know Show” on blog talk radio, stitcher and player FM with over 1 million global listeners.  Deb spent twenty years as a cardiovascular surgical specialist, winning numerous awards for outstanding sales and leadership skills.  In her personal life, Deb battled sexual abuse, others’ alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, depression, was the sole caregiver to both her parents who fought cancer to their death, and even experienced financial devastation.  Today, Deb helps people turn things around in their business, or the business of living, with the discovery of the amazing you.

Sign up for Deb’s free mind vitamin monthly newsletter at:  http://www.GreenSkyandBlueGrass.com

Distorted Thinking Styles: Do You Wear One of These?

Your passion for fashion may be an attractive attribute in creating your personal style, but distorted thinking is a trend which needs to end now.
Do you suffer from distorted thinking?
What are the effects it is having on you?
Most important, how do you get rid of it if you have it?
 

Is Your View of You Distorted?

The conversations you have in your head are the most important meetings you will ever attend. Everything you say to yourself on the inside, is what you eventually express and manifest on the outside.
If you attract who you are, you must be very careful about what thoughts you allow to remain in your mind. Kill them before they have time to take root to grow a negative behavior.  Early diagnosis always accompanies a more positive prognosis.
Do you ever hear yourself saying something like:
  • “If my husband really cared about my happiness, he would take on more responsibility with the house and kids.”
  • “I feel like such a failure, I’ll never achieve my dream.”
  • “If I didn’t grow up in such a dysfunctional family, I wouldn’t be depressed.”
Good News! You are not alone if any of these examples sound vaguely familiar.  Little nasty voices of self-talk in your head, can be replaced.  You have the power!   
 
 
 

Self-Talk can be Transformed

You are only as sick as your secrets, so being aware this conversation exists, is the first step towards getting rid of it.
“The authors of the Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook note that this type of thinking is characterized by ‘repetitive and intrusive thoughts that are unrealistic, unproductive, and often anxiety producing.”
You may have had a belief system which functioned to keep you safe in “survival mode” when you were younger, but this formula is not a winning equation towards healthy living in your adulthood. In fact, it is destroying and blocking you from claiming your hearts desires! Get rid of it!

I Can Do This!

You need to be programmed positive in the present. Accept and understand the negative programming you got in the past, which you need to remove today, is not your fault you caught.  Reinforce by your family situations or societal expectations, you can rise above your problem thinking.
What are the effects of these negative thoughts? Self-doubt, fears, or even phobias. None of these are good, and this is just the short list!
OK – you don’t want to feel this negativity, which means you have to get rid of the thoughts which create them, so your behavior can change for the better.
The Fabulous Four Cure for Distorted Thinking:
1. Identify the negative emotion you are feeling
2. Identify the situation which triggered this emotion
3. Identify the distorted thought
4. Create the opposite emotion in the same situation with a kind thought.
3 I’s (Identify) + 1 C (Create) = The New Amazing Happy Me!

Happiness Island, Peace Beach, Serenity Sand

Let’s take one of the examples provided, and apply this cure for distorted thinking.  This will help you begin the transformation in becoming the magnificent happy person you were created to be.
“If I didn’t grow up in such a dysfunctional family, I wouldn’t be depressed.”
1. I am feeling angry, resentful, tense and stressed.
2. My daughter/son just told me I was a terrible mother/father because I wouldn’t let him/her stay out past midnight.
3. Because my child told me I was a terrible parent in that specific situation, I feel like my entire life of being a parent is a failure, which makes me feel even more depressed. This feeling reinforces the belief I have no hope of change because this feeling comes from my horrible childhood, which I can never go back to the past to make better.
4. There are many people who have had worse pasts than me, who are happy productive people today, living in healthy relationship with their families. I can be happier today because these past experiences have given me more compassion, better discernment, and deeper experience to make better choices in the present. These better choices I make, give me power to create the life I want. I am no longer a victim to other peoples behavior!
Practice this process with events and emotions which are easy to identify.  Like anything else, when repeated with practice, the more easy the process will become to apply in more complex situations.

Your New Theme Song!

Surround yourself in transformation. Associate with people who are seeking to accomplish the same change as you, and you will experience your positive results more quickly and efficiently.
Positive energy is a fragrance worth wearing everyday, for any and all occasions in your life.
No thought is ever final, no feeling an absolute fact. It’s all a process.
Your personal passion for positive fashion, never felt so fun! 
 
 

Because You're Worth It!

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Clear the Fear! How to Get Rid of Fear & Anxiety

Fear in the past is resentment. Fear in the present is anger. Fear in the future is worry.

Fears Erased Daily Here!

Do you have a fear you want to clear out of your life? Good! Because fear is part of an upside down green sky world, which doesn’t serve you towards living your most happy, purposeful best today.

Fear is based in a lack of control, helplessness, victim mentality. When you feed fear, you starve peace. Fear is always accompanied by anxiety, confusion, and lack of hope.

Fear does not contain any faith. Faith evaporates fear, because faith knows a Higher Power, God, Universe (whatever is working for you in this moment) is a greater source which loves and cares for you unconditionally. When you know you are being loved, watched over, and protected, you automatically feel more safe, empowered, and inspired.

Think of when you were a child. Did you worry about where your next meal would be coming from? Stress out over having clothes to wear? Did you worry about what you even looked like? No. You lived in the present moment, and trusted the adults, your parents, were supplying the necessities you needed without even realizing you wanted them.

Fearless Recipies

The cure for worry then, is rooted in faith. So how then, do you get more faith?

Famous Clear the Fear Recipie:

1. Identify a time in your past when you worried.
2. List what you worried might happen.
3. Write down what actually did happen.

If you’re like me, many of the negative outcomes you thought would happen, never did. And if they did happen, you still survived. This leads to the grand finale step of them all.

4. Are you still alive to talk about it?

You see, if you have overcome the worst case scenario fear based result, regardless of how severe the fear, you have survived. If you have survived, you have overcome the worst result possible: death. Even then, many would argue death is not the worst event in your life.

Fear is false, because it is something which hasn’t happened yet. It is a feeling, and feelings are not factual, they just occur as a result of a thought.

Feelings –> Thoughts –> Behaviors;
and the circle continues in an endless cycle of infinity.

If you want to get rid of a fear, face it head on with faith. Prove to yourself your faith is alive, by reminding yourself of factual past events where your fears never came to appear.

Remember, you have been divinely watched over to make it this far in your life, with and without all these obstacles you still survived. The Divine is on your side!

Fear can’t survive where faith is alive.

No Fear Here!

What are People Saying about the New Award Winning Book – The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue~

What are people saying about “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue!”~

“Deb Scott’s “The Sky is Green and the Grass is Blue” provides a quirky, upbeat path to transforming your life. Whether you’re a creative spirit or a businessperson, “The Sky is Green” offers insights into happiness from which all can benefit.”
~ Fern Reiss, director, The International Association of Writers, Speakers, and Experts,
http://www.associationofwriters.com/

AMAZON.COM ~ A Gem of a Book! 5 Stars

“Do you have problems in your life? Does it feel like your world is upside down? If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, then you will definitely want to read, The Sky is Green and the Grass is Blue. Author and motivational consultant, Deb Scott, is no stranger to hardship. With extraordinary openess, she shares things that have helped her overcome her difficulties and have turned her upside down world right side up.

The tone of the book is very conversational. The reader almost feels as if he or she is sitting down with Deb, having a cup of coffee, and talking with her. The book is full of stories and quotes and analogies from everyday life that beautifully illustrate her points. She offers helpful advice that includes praying, 12 step programs (not just for alcoholics), tips for finding and determining if you have a “good” therapist, volunteering, and valuable resources (online and media) that can be used to help readers find blue skies and green grass. Another helpful tool that Ms. Scott includes is written exercises. Found throughout the book, these exercises are intended to help readers do some critical thinking and self-evaluation so that they can find themselves on the path to happiness.

The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue is positive encouragement for people who feel that life is pulling them down. If your sky is green , and your grass is blue, then read this book. You won’t be disappointed!”

Sherry Ellis/ Amazon.com

“If you want to meet the most powerful and amazing person you will ever know, let Deborah Scott introduce you to YOU! Within the pages of this book Deborah offers her first hand advice to gently and effectively guide you, including easy exercises which can assist you, in turning your challenges into celebrations.”
~ Sumner M. Davenport; Results Coach, Bounce-Back Expert;
Best Selling Author; The “G” spot, The ecstasy of life through GRATITUDE.

http://sumnerdavenport.com/

BARNES & NOBLE.COM ~ All 5 Star Ratings!

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For All General Readers / Barnes & Noble.com
“The Sky is Green and the Grass is Blue is the perfect gift for anyone in your life who is suffering and looking for resources to create happiness. Deb Scott takes readers on an inspiring journey through many self-help tools available today, including some surprising ideas on where you can find the most happiness.”
~ Lisa Tener; Book Writing Coach, Speaker, Published Author;
http://www.lisatener.com/
ALL BOOKS REVIEW International ~ Highly Recommended! :)

“You don’t know, what you don’t know !”
“Simple? Yes. Easy to accept? No ! Deb Scott’s premise that “You don’t know, what you don’t know,” is the basis for transforming negatives into positives. It is the foundation for her book.
The Sky is Green and the Grass is Blue teaches readers to reverse their thinking; to turn all of life’s negativity into a positive, happy life. Starting at the beginning she convinces readers that help is just a step away. First and foremost you must open your mind and open your heart. Prayer is encouraged.
The author suggests that “going it alone” does not work. The book recommends several well-qualified organizations, at no cost to the member, that can help. The next step would be professional therapists and coaches and media tools, all practically listed and suggested. Numerous stories and anecdotes are included to make her point and provide entertainment.
Well organized, humorous, entertaining and yet, very in depth sensible advice, this book will be a great help to many people in conquering their fears and their past.”
Highly Recommended
by Reviewer: Shirley Roe
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A Review by Dr. Patrick A. O’Dougherty, out of the F. Scott Fitzgerald community of St. Paul, MN

“Brilliant!”

“Encouragement. Deb Scott should be encouraged. I come from a family of counselors. My mother, Patricia O’Dougherty, was a social worker on the charging team in Minneapolis. She worked with the women’s prison, alcoholics, and the Indian mothers. My father, James O’Dougherty, was an attorney who specialized in counseling. I have a counselor who specializes in counseling writers. I, first, sought counseling because I did not want to fall through the cracks in life. I am evaluating Deb Scott’s book not as a professional but as a consumer. Motivation. Motivation is one of the hardest topics to write about because it is very difficult to judge motivation. Actions speak louder than words. Writing a motivational book is quite an ambitious undertaking. Deb Scott maintains motivation should lead to action. This book review is an action, a defining point an outcome from reading the book. The strength of Deb Scott’s book is it is filled with prayers and profundities. It has exercises and a plan, focus and positive advice. It has religious themes without being preachy or proselytizing. I went to Washburn High School in Minneapolis. Dwayne Dwyer replicated the miracles of St. Francis of Assisi on the stage with the audience. I don’t think my high school physics teacher at Washburn, Mr. Requeway, could do this. Deb Scott is a replicable miracle. The kingdom of God is within. It is within you. It is within Deb Scott. Ironically, I made a teaching film which uses a similar exercise to the one Deb Scott does. My exercise is to spell your name with dots between the letters and then turn the letters of your name into a poem with another person’s name and then connect the dots and poems. Service. Get out of yourself is another profound piece of advice from Deb Scott. Surround yourself with motivational tapes, meditation and positive reinforcement. Advice I have found useful is to make a roadmap of your life and chart it. Gratitude. Count your blessings. Deb Scott’s advice, profundities and ironies are grace notes for new prescriptions in your life. I hope this review makes you feel new. Your book renewed my interest in your field. You want to change people’s thinking and lead them to do good. It is difficult to judge motivation. So, I won’t judge Deb Scott, rather accept. Brilliant!”

Dr. Patrick A. O’Dougherty, Saint Paul, Minnesota, USA

Winner of the Prestigious International Library of Poetry’s Editor’s Choice Award ; Namara Alumni Carlson Heritage Wall Author at the University of Minnesota; F. Scott Fitzgerald Community, More Here…

SELF-HELP DAILY: Winner Top 100 Inspirational Blogs!

“Wholeheartedly recommend this book to anyone!”

There were so many things I loved about this book – from the author’s infectious positive and fun-to-read style to the catchy title – a title that starts the reader off on a journey to discover what the author has in mind..
I’d categorize this book under the following categories:
Spiritual
Self Help
Self Improvement
Inspirational
Motivational
Recovery
A Book that Makes You Glad to Be Alive!
That last category? Just made it up – Just for this book.
When I finish reading a book, I ask myself what my initial opinion of the book is. After the standard, “Like it, love it, or eh -so-so,” I always have a few summarizing thoughts about the book, the author, or the way the book left me feeling. After reading The Sky is Green and the Grass is Blue: Turning your upside down world right side up!, I thought, and subsequently wrote down, the following:
“This book was like a walk through an inspirational and spiritual garden. There were so many lovely thoughts, quotes, stories, and illustrations along the way – just like beautiful flowers along a garden’s path. I kept stopping to pick one and could see one just ahead – from the first page of the book to the last.”
I wholeheartedly recommend this book to anyone and everyone. I promise that you’ll find plenty of beautiful flowers to cut and enjoy along the garden’s path. Buy The Sky is Green and the Grass is Blue: Turning your upside down world right side up! on Amazon today.

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“I’ve had the joy and honor of getting to know Deb Scott through my radio show. Her energy is uplifting and her spirit inspiring. I learn something new about life, transformation and motivation every time we speak. I highly recommend her book, The Sky Is Green and the Grass is Blue and her coaching services to all. She is a master of sharing vivid stories that transform life.”

Tamara Kleinberg- Founder: Imaginibbles

“Useful, Uplifting, Practical!”

This book is very inspirational and yet practical. It is full of clear help on how to combat persistent negative thinking and includes a motivational narrative about the help of 12-Step programs, prayer, professional guidance and volunteering. The motivation supplied by the text is augmented by helpful exercises. …especially useful and uplifting.”
The Recovery Guide Network