(As Featured in Simple Steps to Real Change Magazine)
The truth is, as long as you are living on planet earth in the skin suit, you are going to have to deal with some amount of pain, sorrow and sadness. In situations such as these, it is important to remember this: there is always a big picture.
How can remembering there is a bigger picture in the immediate moment of unhappiness help to alleviate your pain? How can this one awareness transform the horrible into the tolerable, or even acceptable? How can this belief help you feel better when you are in the midst of feeling your worst?
Consider your current difficulty is the catalyst for a change which elevates you in two years to begin the new business you have yearned to create for over a decade. Consider your current difficulty is the catalyst for change which elevates you to understand your true vocation is to share your story with the world and write your book. Consider your current difficulty is the catalyst for change which elevates you to break free from fear and the demons of doubt holding you back from enjoying your own company regardless of outside opinions. Consider all the possibilities!
Just us darkness and light can never coexist together in the same moment; the seeds of change will never be a visible harvest which has fully blossomed. One must end for the other to begin. It’s all a process.
Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.
If you can stop to consider you don’t know what you don’t know, you don’t know if your perception of a bad thing in the present moment will not transform into a beautiful success of magnificent joy in the future. You just don’t know!
Here are a few simple steps to help you squeeze out the good in the midst of the bad.
Write down what you have learned from this (enter here) experience.
I have learned to not trust this person’s word – only their actions.
List the qualities you have appreciated in yourself in this experience.
I acted with honesty and integrity in this situation and I had the courage to communicate with this person with respect.
Make a promise to yourself of a good change you will implement immediately because of this experience.
I will accept people as they are and not try to change them. I will keep the focus on myself.
So remember, when you feel like all hope is lost, remember your feelings have nothing to do with the fact you have truly gained your ultimate greatness.
Deb Scott, BA, CPC is a four-time award winning author of “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue,” and a top rated Best Podcaster winner of “The Best People We Know Show” on blog talk radio, stitcher and player FM with over 1 million global listeners. Deb spent twenty years as a cardiovascular surgical specialist, winning numerous awards for outstanding sales and leadership skills. In her personal life, Deb battled sexual abuse, others’ alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, depression, was the sole caregiver to both her parents who fought cancer to their death, and even experienced financial devastation. Today, Deb helps people turn things around in their business, or the business of living, with the discovery of the amazing you. Sign up for Deb’s free mind vitamin monthly newsletter at: http://www.GreenSkyandBlueGrass.comThis content will be shown after all post