22 Ways to Make Your Life Happier

When you shine from the Inside You don’t need the Spotlight.

I am grateful for this opportunity to share, reflect and hopefully impact your life in a meaning way by sharing the qualities necessary I have discovered to live a truly meaningful life. We must live life forward, independent of being able to only understand the events and results of the choices we make in hindsight.

The unexamined life is not worth living. Socrates

I’ve experienced a few challenges of my own on this journey called life, and I know you have too. Mine were packaged growing up in a dysfunctional family, being sexually abused by a teacher I should have been able to trust, dealing with the effects of others’ alcoholism, battling depression, being a sole care giver to both my parents until their death, and even financial devastation (just to name a few).

In the professional world I appeared to be a success. My biology degree launched me into twenty years of award winning cardiac surgery sales. I learned a lot about business, and even more about people. Being in surgery frequently selling my beating heart surgery devices, I saw first-hand everyone has the same color blood running through their veins no matter what shape, color, size, religious belief, age, or language they spoke on the outside. We are all the same on the inside.

So here’s what I have learned along the way. I hope you apply these insights into your life so you can recognize, accept and apply the lesson quicker than I did. If you do, I am confident they will help you create a magnificent satisfying life beyond your best dream. You will make the world a better place for yourself and everyone you meet. You matter.

 

1. Shine from the Inside and You Won’t Need the Spotlight.
All the awards, money and fame that may put you in the shiny spotlight to the worlds view on the outside will never give you the peace and happiness you seek on the inside. Genuine joy will only come from aligning with your inner core values and the moral compass you seek to keep. Be pushed by your life mission statement, not pulled by other people’s agendas.

2. Don’t let your Happiness come from Other People’s Minds.
Being motivated by what other people think is like taking arsenic and expecting the other person to die. Being motivated by other people’s approval will deceptively lead you over the cliff of destruction every time. You will always have people who dislike you, disagree with you, and even strive to destroy you. Expect it, forgive them, let it go, and be you.

3. You can’t unscramble the Scrambled Eggs, but you can create Delicious New recepies for omelletes.
Everyone makes mistakes, has regrets, and does the “could a, would a, should a” self-talk scenario. Accept this as part of the process of being a human being. Focus on researching those tragedies to learn their value in creating something better you could never have experienced or shared without them. Priceless precious diamonds are always created under pressure.

4. Befriend your Fear and Stress as Safety Stop Signs in your Travels.
You don’t drive down the street resenting the stop sign, traffic lights or yield signs along the road to wherever you are going. You are grateful they are there to protect you and keep you safe from disaster or even death. Look at your feelings of stress, confusion or fear as gifts from God and the universe to help you pause and avoid potential danger. Seek the message and redirect your actions accordingly.

5. Listen to learn not to Justify.
You can’t hear what the other person is saying when you are having two conversations in your head, the one you are saying and the one you want the other person to be saying back in response to you. It takes courage to listen without premeditated justification of your own opinion. Be humble.

6. It’s a Bad Day not a Bad Life.
When life gets you down and everyone on planet earth feels this way from time to time whether they admit it or not, remember no pain or joy lasts forever. Your feelings are moving constantly like the clouds in the sky. Every experience is creating something greater than yourself not only for you, but everyone around you. Remember, you’re not finished yet.

7. Your life is between you and your God, adjust accordingly.
Life is so much easier when you only have one person to please instead of thousands, hundreds or dozens. Live your life for what God thinks of you, because your boss, your friends, and even your family won’t be judging you in your life review. Make sure your life is something you want to watch again. Ask yourself in every decision you are about to make whether or not you want to see yourself making that choice again, and the results it created.

8. Collect moments not things.
Ask yourself in every goal you desire to achieve if the prize is something which will live on with value in your memory. Stuff creates dust, but the moments of being with your parents, your children, your community will live within the protection of your heart long past the day they die.

9. Reflect often on Your Death to help you really Live.
Last I checked, no one is staying. You are going to die, and you don’t know exactly how or when. This truth should motivate you to live each day as if it were a separate life. Reflect often on your death and you will quickly gain insight into the truth of your priorities.

10. Seek the lesson in each painful problem to find your peace and purpose.
Everyone experiences suffering and pain. This is part of life you must accept and not fight. Embrace this reality and use it to learn about yourself, what you value, why you hurt, what matters in the core of your moral compass. Discover yourself. You will learn quickly how attached you are to a person or thing by the amount of pain you experience when it is gone.

11. Words are Meaningless, you can only believe a person’s Actions.
Words are empty vehicles which mean nothing without the complimentary action to back them up in truth. The husband who beats his wife and says I love you is a liar. People lie. You will never stop people from being deceitful, manipulative or revengeful. Sociopaths really exist, and you will meet more than you will probably ever recognize. Always judge a person by truth of their actions, and this includes yourself.

12. Dump the Drama.
Drama can be an addiction like anything else. If you are surrounded or find yourself frequently talking about drama, it’s time to let go of your need to control. The source of your pain is that you want to control other people. Focus on you. If you can’t enjoy your own company, don’t expect anyone else to.

13. Right is Right is no one is doing it, and wrong is wrong if everyone is doing it.
Stand for something or you will surely fall for everything. You must believe in what you are doing regardless of what other people are doing or telling you to do. It’s not about them. Check your motivation for everything you do and realize it is your motivation which creates the honest intention towards that end result.

14. Trust your Intuition and Understand why you did later.
That little voice which whispers inside your soul that tells you there is something not right, something that doesn’t add up, something that creates a feeling of confusion or doubt, is God’s gift of guidance to you. Trust your intuition and don’t try to justify bad behavior in your head. Sometimes the ego distorts your spiritual eye sight.

15. Employee performance Reviews are designed to protect your Employer not to Help you become a Better Employee.
Those once a year performance reviews which seem to be designed to help you improve your skill set on the outside, are in fact designed to create legal justification for letting you go, not giving you a bigger pay raise or anything else the employer wants to justify. Don’t ever sign a performance review you disagree with, and never feel intimated that you have to sign it. Stand up for yourself, you’re worth it.

16. Don’t believe Everything You Think.
The negative communication committee inside your head is always going to chatter something crazy. Sometimes what you think or feel may not be true. No one knows everything at all the time. Sometimes you just have to laugh when you want to cry.

17. It’s about Progress not Perfection.
There is no such thing as perfection. Life is fair to all precisely because it is unfair to all. Focus on your progress towards a goal instead of some imaginary standard of perfection you have decided you need to do whatever it is you want to do. Always find something to be grateful for in your progress towards accomplishing your goal. The greatest people are always the most grateful people.

18. You are the People you Associate with, chose wisely.
Make a list of the people you associate with and the qualities you admire and detest in each. You will discover who you are through this exercise more than you will discover anything about them. Let go of poisonous people. Be very allergic to negative people. Surround yourself with people who respect and appreciate you in word and action so you can appreciate and respect yourself.

19. Be Humble.
This is the greatest attribute anyone can ever have, and I measure this quality in each person I meet, including myself. Whatever you have in a talent or material possession is a gift. When you get up in the morning a take your refreshing shower, remember there are thousands of people in the world who don’t even have clean water to drink let alone take a shower in. If you have food, shelter and health, you really have it all.

20. Don’t Borrow Sorrow from Tomorrow.
There are only two days in your life when you can’t accomplish anything; yesterday and tomorrow. Live in the present moment. Keep your head and heart focused on today. Today is all you have, and for the thousands of people who will die today, they won’t even have that.

21. Don’t go to the Hardware store for Bread.
Consider why you expect a person, place or thing to give you the result you seek. You will never be able to change other people. Accept people as they are instead of what you want them to be, and you will set yourself free to make better decisions. Let go quickly.

22. Pray, Pray, Pray.
This is the golden key which unlocks the meaning of your life. Prayer is the path which leads to truth which can only be discovered in the silence of your heart. You must pray to open the flood gates of love into your soul. Spiritual jewels of love and peace will never be found in the material world. Life is not fair, only God is fair.  The best prayer you can ever say is thank you God for everything, because everything is truly a gift. You are a gift to this world, unwrap yourself. You didn’t come here by accident. You have a specific purpose in the design of humanity to do something which no one else can create. Share your shine, the world needs you.

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Deb Scott, BA, CPC is a four time award winning author of, The Sky is Green & the Grass is Blue (a Kindle Top 20 Best Seller!), a top rated best podcaster winner for, The Best People We Know Show, with over 1 million global listeners, and a Top 1% Kred Social Media Influencer. Deb spent twenty years as a cardiovascular surgical specialist, winning numerous awards for outstanding sales and leadership skills. In her personal life, Deb battled sexual abuse, others’ alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, depression, was the sole caregiver to both her parents who fought cancer to their death, and even experienced financial devastation. Today, Deb helps people turn things around in their business, or the business of living, with the discovery of the amazing you.

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Why I Thank God for Stress – 7 Reasons You Can Too

I never thought I would be thanking God for feeling stress, fear or anxiety, but I am here to tell you I do. It is a gift. It is a loud danger sign I have come to appreciate and respect. I don’t fight it anymore, I am grateful when it shows up.

How can stress be a positive protector to help you prune out the poisonous people, places and things in your life? What can you do to transform the trouble of today into the triumph of tomorrow? Is there a secret?

This was the topic of a recent discussion I had with Lauren Miller for her Stress Solutions University program.

Imagine for a moment you are driving to meet a friend. You get in the car and probably encounter a red light, slow down for a stop sign, or yield into a rotary. Do you for one moment yell at the red light, resent the stop sign, or get angry because you have to yield? No. You are grateful these signs exist to help protect you from the very real potential danger and destruction of a car accident. You are thankful someone placed these signals across your journey to help protect you from disaster. You humbly accept and follow the rules of the road as a positive part of your everyday travel.

In the same way, God gives you intuitive signals in your five senses to help navigate you safely through life.

The stress you feel when someone betrays you, the anxiety that overwhelms you in a work environment, the sick feeling in your stomach about a decision you have been procrastinating to face. These are all hidden gifts you need to unwrap. God is trying to help you be safe from danger. Stop and pay attention.

How can the feeling of fear or stress become a friend?

  1. Stop and immediately acknowledge and accept your feeling of stress. Notice where and how you are feeling stress in your body.
  2.  Thank God for giving you a sign to protect yourself from danger. Take a power pause.
  3.  Sit in silence with your feelings and ask, “What can I learn from this?” Discover yourself, you’re worth it.
  4.  Recognize that if you are feeling stress, anxiety, fear or confusion, you need to change direction from the source or trigger of these negative emotions. Protect yourself.
  5.  What new actions can you create as a result of this new awareness? What new choices are now available to you? You always have a choice.
  6. Ask God, pray, and/or meditate for the grace, wisdom and courage to implement one of these new options which brings you the most peace. Compassion for yourself is your quickest cure.
  7.  Remember, you don’t need to understand how God is showing up with this message for you to benefit from its’ effects. You use a lot of things in your day that you don’t understand how they work, but you don’t boycott using them because you don’t understand how the results are achieved. Trust.

Consider each seed of stress you despise, can be a source of strength which helps you a grow a great life you love.

 

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC is a four time award winning author of, The Sky is Green & the Grass is Blue (a Kindle Top 20 Best Seller!), and a top rated best podcaster winner for, The Best People We Know Show, with over 1 million global listeners, and a Top 1% Kred Social Media Influencer. Deb spent twenty years as a cardiovascular surgical specialist, winning numerous awards for outstanding sales and leadership skills.  In her personal life, Deb battled sexual abuse, others’ alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, depression, was the sole caregiver to both her parents who fought cancer to their death, and even experienced financial devastation.  Today, Deb helps people turn things around in their business, or the business of living, with the discovery of the amazing you.

Connect with Deb at: http://www.greenskyandbluegrass.com

Progress NOT Perfection: The Real Deal Success Recipe

As Featured in:  Soul Woman Sanctuary Magazine

Why do some people feel happy with so much less than others who appear to marinate in misery with monetary over flowing abundance? Could it be in the way success is measured? Could it be the easiest way to achieve peace in this life exists in progress vs perfection?

Consider the first man on the moon got to his destination by being in a rocket which was on track perfectly approximately only two percent of the time. Only two percent of the entire journey! Yet, the goal was astonishingly accomplished which changed history forever for all mankind. Was it maintaining perfect progress towards the moon or being perfectly on track which most powerfully propelled ultimate victory?

My point is this; consider measuring your life and goals in terms of progress rather than perfection.

Think of something right now you want very much in your personal life, your business, or even in your family which you don’t yet have. Consider the progress you have made in this area in the last year, two years or even ten years, and ask yourself if you don’t instantaneously feel more inspired, uplifted and hopeful.

Realize you might not be where you want to be, but you’re definitely not where you use to be!


 
So next time you need a little jolt of joy in your life journey, adjust your internal thermometer to focus on the great amount of progress you have made in learning, growing, changing and adjusting to the inevitable ups and downs of life, instead of comparing and despairing in the futile illusion of being perfect. The truth is; progress IS perfection.

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC is a four-time award winning author of “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue,” and a top rated Best Podcaster winner of “The Best People We Know Show” on blog talk radio, stitcher and player FM with over 1 million global listeners.  Deb spent twenty years as a cardiovascular surgical specialist, winning numerous awards for outstanding sales and leadership skills.  In her personal life, Deb battled sexual abuse, others’ alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, depression, was the sole caregiver to both her parents who fought cancer to their death, and even experienced financial devastation.  Today, Deb helps people turn things around in their business, or the business of living, with the discovery of the amazing you. Sign up for Deb’s free mind vitamin monthly newsletter at:  http://www.GreenSkyandBlueGrass.com  

This Story will Shift the Way You Think about Stress Forever

A young lady confidently walked around the Room with a raised glass of water while

Leading a seminar and explaining Stress Management to her audience. Everyone knew she

Was going to ask the ultimate question, ‘Half Empty or half full?’

She fooled them all.   “How Heavy is this glass of water?” she inquired With a smile.

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. To 20 oz .

She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t Matter. It depends on how long I hold it.

If I Hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my

Right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an Ambulance. In each case it’s the same weight,

But the longer I hold it, the heavier it Becomes.”  She continued, “and that’s the way it is with Stress.

If we carry our burdens all The time, sooner or later, as the burden Becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able

To carry on.”  ”As with the glass of water, you have to put It down for a while and rest before holding it

Again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on With the burden – holding stress longer and

Better each time practiced.  So, as early in the evening as you can, put All your burdens down. Don’t carry them

Through the evening and into the night. Pick Them up again tomorrow if you must.

Deb Scott, BA, CPC is a four-time award winning author of “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue,” and a top rated Best Podcaster winner of “The Best People We Know Show” on blog talk radio, stitcher and player FM with over 1 million global listeners.  Deb spent twenty years as a cardiovascular surgical specialist, winning numerous awards for outstanding sales and leadership skills.  In her personal life, Deb battled sexual abuse, others’ alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, depression, was the sole caregiver to both her parents who fought cancer to their death, and even experienced financial devastation.  Today, Deb helps people turn things around in their business, or the business of living, with the discovery of the amazing you. Sign up for Deb’s free mind vitamin monthly newsletter at:  http://www.GreenSkyandBlueGrass.com 

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When Things Seem to be at Their Worst – Remember this…..

(As Featured in Simple Steps to Real Change Magazine)

Anyone who tells you they don’t have a bad day now and then, or some tough moments of struggle, or has all the answers, is a liar. Run away as fast as you can in the opposite direction.

The truth is, as long as you are living on planet earth in the skin suit, you are going to have to deal with some amount of pain, sorrow and sadness. In situations such as these, it is important to remember this: there is always a big picture.

How can remembering there is a bigger picture in the immediate moment of unhappiness help to alleviate your pain? How can this one awareness transform the horrible into the tolerable, or even acceptable? How can this belief help you feel better when you are in the midst of feeling your worst?

Consider your current difficulty is the catalyst for a change which elevates you in two years to begin the new business you have yearned to create for over a decade. Consider your current difficulty is the catalyst for change which elevates you to understand your true vocation is to share your story with the world and write your book. Consider your current difficulty is the catalyst for change which elevates you to break free from fear and the demons of doubt holding you back from enjoying your own company regardless of outside opinions. Consider all the possibilities!

My point is this:
In the moment of your greatest pain you will never feel the future joy of your
authentic happiness.
 

Just us darkness and light can never coexist together in the same moment; the seeds of change will never be a visible harvest which has fully blossomed. One must end for the other to begin. It’s all a process.

Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.

If you can stop to consider you don’t know what you don’t know, you don’t know if your perception of a bad thing in the present moment will not transform into a beautiful success of magnificent joy in the future. You just don’t know!

Here are a few simple steps to help you squeeze out the good in the midst of the bad.

Write down what you have learned from this (enter here) experience.

Example:
I have learned to not trust this person’s word – only their actions.
List the qualities you have appreciated in yourself in this experience.

Example:
I acted with honesty and integrity in this situation and I had the courage to communicate with this person with respect.
Make a promise to yourself of a good change you will implement immediately because of this experience.

Example:
I will accept people as they are and not try to change them. I will keep the focus on myself.

So remember, when you feel like all hope is lost, remember your feelings have nothing to do with the fact you have truly gained your ultimate greatness.                                                                                                                                                                   

 

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Deb Scott, BA, CPC is a four-time award winning author of “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue,” and a top rated Best Podcaster winner of “The Best People We Know Show” on blog talk radio, stitcher and player FM with over 1 million global listeners.  Deb spent twenty years as a cardiovascular surgical specialist, winning numerous awards for outstanding sales and leadership skills.  In her personal life, Deb battled sexual abuse, others’ alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, depression, was the sole caregiver to both her parents who fought cancer to their death, and even experienced financial devastation.  Today, Deb helps people turn things around in their business, or the business of living, with the discovery of the amazing you. Sign up for Deb’s free mind vitamin monthly newsletter at:  http://www.GreenSkyandBlueGrass.com 

How to Trash Your Toxic Thoughts

Wouldn’t it be great to have a quick and easy button to push every time you wanted to put a toxic thought out in the trash? Well, you will absolutely love this read if you do!

Everyone has toxic thoughts now and then, but not everyone knows how to quickly identify and release the emotional effects such thoughts create.

There is scientific data to back up the notion of being able to trash toxic thoughts effectively. Dr. Caroline Leaf has done extensive research on how the mind works and how to work well with the positive gifts and the internal pharmacy your mind is wired to create to enhance genuine happiness.

“Toxic thoughts can increase the level of glutamate, which, in right quantities, is very important to memory building, but in the wrong quantities, it acts like battery acid, causing damage in the brain. Where there is damage, there will be inflammation cells in that particular area. This may manifest in various problems, such as depression or anxiety or learning problems or physical health issues and so on.”

So how do get glutamate into your brain in the right quantities?

First, you must realize your attitude is a chemical configuration which reflects the “flavor” of your thoughts. Once you are able to quickly identify the stop sign you receive in the form of fear or anxiety, you are able to change and re-wire the pathway through your brain.

“The surprising truth is that every single thought – whether positive or negative – goes through the same cycle when it forms. Thoughts are basically electrical impulses, chemicals and neurons on a physical level, but when put together, something amazing happens. A unique thinking pattern emerges, different from every other person on the planet. This is very powerful because it means we have a distinct thinking signature, just as fingerprints are different and distinct to each person, so are our thought patterns.”

Dr. Leaf suggests using a four step method to help identify, capture, and transform toxic thoughts.

1. Capture the initial toxic thought in your frontal lobe which allows you to stand outside yourself and evaluate the thought.
2. Capitalize and use this discomfort you feel to identify the toxic thought block because this is a conscious and nonconscious mental activation of an attitude.
3. Rewire the thought to alter the chemical signature.
4. Decide to melt away the fear in the toxic thought with positive loving thoughts which generate a cascade of peace.

The key is trashing the toxic thought when it first arrives and is most vulnerable to being removed before it takes root and starts generating a full harvest of bad seeds all over your mind, which only grows a feeding frenzy for more toxic thoughts. Timing is key.

You have much more control
of your thoughts than you are probably aware. You are not a victim to any type of stinking thinking or hostage to horrible emotions. You have many choices available to rewire and trash toxic thoughts by getting really good at identifying them when they first start and putting the brakes on the rocky roller coaster ride before it has any chance to take off and run wild. There are numerous neuroplacity studies which prove you can change the structure of your brain.

“We express our attitudes – love or fear – through what we first think and then through the choices we make, which dictate what we say and do. When you add either love or fear emotions to a though cluster and give it a unique flavor, then it becomes an attitude. A bad attitude is proof that you are not operating in your gift. A good attitude is proof you are operating in your gift.”

The more you practice trashing toxic thoughts the easier it will become, the more positive your overall attitude will be, the better you will feel about yourself, others and life in general. Remember, this good change is about progress, not perfection. Be patient with yourself and hold onto the hope that the healthy healing of your mind is absolutely possible. Understanding allows you to overcome.

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC  is a four-time award winning author of “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue,”  and a top rated Best Podcaster winner of “The Best People We Know Show” on blog talk radio, stitcher and player FM with over 1 million global listeners.  Deb spent twenty years as a cardiovascular surgical specialist, winning numerous awards for outstanding sales and leadership skills.  In her personal life, Deb battled sexual abuse, others’ alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, depression, was the sole caregiver to both her parents who fought cancer to their death, and even experienced financial devastation.  Today, Deb helps people turn things around in their business, or the business of living, with the discovery of the amazing you. Sign up for Deb’s free mind vitamin monthly newsletter at:  http://www.GreenSkyandBlueGrass.com

The Allergic to Negative People Pollution Solution

Pollution of every kind certainly catalyzes a visceral response of suffocation, oppression and even depression. “Let me out! I can’t breathe!” That’s what I’m talking about. Pollution that kills and destroys and sucks the life out of you. Pollution that you can visibly see, affect and avoid. Pollution you know is dangerous to your life and accept is all bad for your health. Pollution you don’t want in your life.

But what about the people who pollute your life with stress, anxiety, confusion and constant chaos? What about the people who pollute your life with manipulation, deceit and despair? What about the people who pollute your life with jealousy, rage and anger? What can you do to rid yourself of people pollution such as these?

People Pollution that negatively contaminates the environment of your life is a viral plague of poisonous people who need to be purposely pruned right out of your life.

What’s the pollution solution? How do you clear the smog of people pollution in your life? How do you cleanse your life from the symptoms of this contagious disease?

Smog be gone. Here’s four ways to quickly inject an antibiotic against the effects of this people pollution plague which silently infects the life of many innocent souls. It’s an easy recipe of mind vitamins to feed your whole soul and nurture your spirit with new strength and power to create renewed resistance against this saturating sickness.

1. People Pollution Exists – Accept it.

There is great power in accepting things as they are instead of how you want them to be. Why? Because when you accept the truth of a situation, you are free to make better choices with this knowledge. You must accept some people actually enjoy creating and being immersed in pollution, consciously or unconsciously. Your being uncomfortable with their polluting behavior will not motivate them to change, but it can help you change to feel better.

2. It’s not your fault – Don’t try to justify.

You did not cause the other person to create polluting behavior, and you can’t cure them of it either. Don’t accept unacceptable behavior. Resist the desire to justify bad polluting behavior, or think there is anything you can say or do to change the results of a polluter.

3. Decide for different – Imagine better possibilities & outcomes.

Once you decide you don’t want to be around polluting behavior you are ready to imagine new outcomes and better possibilities of not having that type of negatively affect you. You don’t know what you don’t know. Consider how much energy you will have available to do positive things in your life, when you get back all the precious energy you were expending trying to fight the people who were polluting your life.

4. Spread your Shine – Purify the pollution with positivity.

Let your positive sunshine burn their polluting smog right out of your life. Sticking to your positive standards of peace, compassion, creativity, enthusiasm, faith and confidence in a brighter day to keep you above the clouds like the sun in the sky. The best protection against people pollution is pollution rejection.

The winning equation to your sensational success in being free from the bad fruit of polluting people is accepting people pollution exists. Having a simple strategy to reject the effects of people who negatively pollute your life is a great way to build up a powerful immunity against this deadly disease.        

                                                                                           

Deb Scott, BA, CPC  is a four-time award winning author of “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue,”  and a top rated Best Podcaster winner of “The Best People We Know Show” on blog talk radio, stitcher and player FM with over 1 million global listeners.  Deb spent twenty years as a cardiovascular surgical specialist, winning numerous awards for outstanding sales and leadership skills.  In her personal life, Deb battled sexual abuse, others’ alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, depression, was the sole caregiver to both her parents who fought cancer to their death, and even experienced financial devastation.  Today, Deb helps people turn things around in their business, or the business of living, with the discovery of the amazing you.

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How to Create a Wow Life

If you’re like me, you probably want a wow life, and you want it yesterday. Consider the idea you’re wow is only in the now, and living the life you love, demands you love the skin you’re already in.

“I’ll be happy when I have —–“; I’ll be less stressed when —- changes —–“; or “I’ll take a vacation when —— is finally finished.” Do any of these sound vaguely familiar to you?

Expectations can often be pre-mediated resentments. Change your expectations, shift your gratitude meter, and alter your level of peace and emotional happiness.

The child who survives on drinking dirty water on a daily basis thinks pure joy is having clean running water in his/her home. The abused wife who battles bruising beatings every week dreams of meeting a man who would never communicate with his fist. The husband and wife who just lost their only child to cancer look at every couple with the chaotic craziness of five kids as having it all. Do you see what I mean?

The next question is obvious; how can you make your now your wow?

In the same way you need breaks for your car; you need reliable breaks for your stinking thinking mind at moments as well. You need to have sure stoppers ready and available to halt your mind to steer clear of the catastrophe to give up the hope of a better past. Idealizing a future which may never exist is only going to borrow sorrow from tomorrow.

Create some breaks. Write down your greatest fear on a piece of paper. Underneath it, write down someone who has experienced that fear and overcome it successfully. Finally, draw an image, symbol, or paste a photo of how you feel when the fear is overcome with a positive result. Use this picture as a trigger to turn your mind around into the wow of now.

For example; if you fear losing your job – write that down. Then – write down someone who got fired and ended up with an even better job in life because of being fired. Say, Walt Disney. Then, create your emotional image, perhaps a person smiling at the top of a mountain which reminds you to keep going no matter what obstacle you meet along the way to remember you’re not finished yet.

My point is this; to embrace your wow in the now, you must let go of that confusing mind chatter to buy the lie that something more is required to feel the happiness you seek in this very moment. Walls are made of wasteful wallowing, and smiles are made with the multitude of miracles moving in this very moment.

 

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC  is a four-time award winning author of “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue,”  and a top rated Best Podcaster winner of “The Best People We Know Show” with over 1 million global listeners.  Deb spent twenty years as a cardiovascular surgical specialist, winning numerous awards for outstanding sales and leadership skills.  In her personal life, Deb battled sexual abuse, others’ alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, depression, was the sole caregiver to both her parents who fought cancer to their death, and even experienced financial devastation.  Today, Deb helps people turn things around in their business, or the business of living, with the discovery of the amazing you – See more at: http://www.greenskyandbluegrass.com

To Solve a Problem Do This

I don’t worry when I get up in the morning and everything looks blurry because I easily grab my reading glasses and suddenly the world is available to me in a crisp new way. In the same manner, when you feel frustrated, confused or discouraged, you can grab your God glasses and quickly transform what appears bad into something uniquely beautiful specifically wrapped as a custom gift created just for you.

God glasses are available in locations which supply God glasses. You can’t go to the hardware store bread, and you can’t find God glasses just anywhere. You must have the intention to get yourself a pair of God glasses, and then take action to purchase to wear.

I am going to tell you a secret.

God glasses are globally abundant in the most surprising places, and often overlooked by counterfeit products with less than satisfactory results. You have to check the label to make sure your pair is the high quality original name brand. I would suggest you find someone who has the genuine article, who experiences consistent results as promised, and purchase a pair from their same source.

My point is this; if you want to be free of frustration and those demons of doubt, you must be aware not every book, person or theory which claims success truly delivers it. Many self-help gurus claim they have the answer, and at the same time live a contradictory lie. Many shiny websites and fancy marketing campaigns hook you with a glittery veneer and empty contents.

What happens when you buy the lie? You don’t get the promised results. What happens then? You feel like YOU did something wrong because their system didn’t work for you and you subsequently feel even more frustrated, disappointed and discouraged than you did before. Consider the notion there is nothing wrong with you, and there is something wrong with them! You discovered a fraud, and that is not your fault.

I am challenging you to a new way of thinking.

 

Ask more questions, investigate third parties, be cautiously optimistic and believe you are far too precious to spend any amount of time in your life with people, places or things that do not meet standards of authenticity. Bad seeds will never grow a good harvest.

So next time you search for answers to solve a problem in your life, take a moment to pause, grab your God glasses, and know you’re worth the effort.

 

 

 

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC  is a four-time award winning author of “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue,”  and a top rated radio host of “The Best People We Know Show” which was a third place finalist in the 2012 Shorty Awards for best podcaster.  Deb spent twenty years as a cardiovascular surgical specialist, winning numerous awards for outstanding sales and leadership skills.  In her personal life, Deb battled sexual abuse, others’ alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, was the sole caregiver to both her parents who fought cancer to their death, and even experienced financial devastation.  Today, Deb helps people turn things around in their business, or the business of living, with the discovery of the amazing you.

Why the Law of Attraction might not Be Working for You

I am the first one to agree your thoughts create your feelings, which then creates your actions, which subsequently builds the reality of your life. To that end, your thoughts can and do create your world.

But what happens when the law of attraction doesn’t seem to be working for you? What happens when you feel like you are doing all the right things, but you end up with all the wrong results. What then?

It deeply saddens me to see anyone beat themselves up for supposedly doing the ‘law of attraction’ wrong. Precisely when the person feels most down about a circumstance in life, the bulldozer of despair dumps a double dose of self-incriminating negativity.

“Why isn’t the law of attraction working for ME?”

Consider you are not doing anything wrong at all. Consider the equation is wrong. 2+ 3 will never equal 4, no matter how much you visualize and wish it to be true.

Could it be where the law of attraction ends where a little common sense needs to begin?

Would you think for one moment Rosa Parks needed to contemplate what the universe was trying to teach her to accept as she walked to the back of the bus because she was black, day in and day out, every day of her life? Would you for one second think that a Jewish victim at Auschwitz needed to contemplate what he/she was doing to attract being rolled into the incinerator to be burned alive? Do really believe the victims who had their limbs blown off in the Boston Marathon Bombing subconsciously put out a frequency with THAT on their Law of Attraction menu? Of course not!

The missing ingredient is thisgood and evil exists, and each person has free will to bring one or the other into the physical world we each live within. Good produces more good, and bad produces more bad. We are each planting seeds first in the garden of our own life, which then scatters more of the same into the lives of others around us.

Each thing in and of itself may not be good, but together they can produce good.

I recently discussed this notion with Cheryl Maloney on Empower Radio (click here to listen). Consider the thought of eating tablespoons of salt, a cup of sugar or raw eggs individually. Pucker up! It does not sound very good to me! Why? Because on their own it’s not. But, stir them all together with some flour, put the mixture in the oven, and viola’, you have angel food cake. Angel food cake is very good.

My point is this, certain things on their own are not always good, and never will be good. No amount of visualization is going to change that. What you can change is to see beyond the individual bad event, and extrapolate the present bad into the potential good result once it is wrapped with a new element of thought, action, belief, event, person, place or thing.

Life is not the all about “me” show, it’s the all about “we” show.

Consider your unfair boss is not the universe or God telling you to reflect and work through a possible childhood issue with an authority figure. Consider your boss needs to learn a lesson to be a fair boss, and you need to step out in courage to bring this to light, and in doing so you will have saved hundreds of other workers unjust treatment.

When the “I” becomes a “we” focus, even illness is transformed into wellness.

So next time you want to beat yourself up for not doing the law of attraction correctly to grab hold of the perfect life you have visualized in your on demand dream board, consider this: You didn’t do anything wrong. In fact, you may be doing something very right.

 

 

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC   is a four-time award winning author of The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue,” and a top rated radio host of The Best People We Know Show” which was a third place finalist in the 2012 Shorty Awards for best podcaster. Deb spent twenty years as a cardiovascular surgical specialist, winning numerous awards for outstanding sales and leadership skills. In her personal life, Deb has battled sexual abuse, others’ alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, was the sole caregiver to both her parents who fought cancer to their death, and even experienced financial devastation. Today, Deb helps people turn things around in their business, or the business of living, with the discovery of the amazing you.

 

Shorty Awards Third Place Finalist: Deb Scott Interview

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What’s your best tweet?

I love to copy and paste the profile descriptions of my fave tweeples. 4 ex: @ShortyAwards#BestPeople

What are six things you could never do without?

Love, Purpose, Hope, Faith, Enthusiasm, Friendship (& Twitter of course! :) )

How do you use Twitter in your professional life?

Twitter has been invaluable in promoting and growing The Best People We Know Radio Show on Blog Talk Radio to over 750K Global Listeners.

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Twitter or Facebook?

Been spending more time on Twitter these days than Facebook bcuz it’s Real Time interaction, overflowing w/amazing people in the world.

What feature should Twitter add?

An app that would allow me to easily connect on Twitter w/all my friends in LinkedIn, GoodReads, Google+, Facebook, Pinterest.

Who do you wish had a Twitter feed but doesn’t?

Really? Someone doesn’t have a twitter account? Even the Pope has a twitter account now!!

What are some words or phrases you refuse to shorten for brevity?

Love

Have you ever unfollowed someone? Who and why?

I have. I do not tolerate profanity or negative disrespect for other people.

Why should we vote for you?

Because The #BestPeople We Know Show is Dedicated to Helping People all over the World be their very Best, w/ Trust, Integrity, & Enthusiasm.

Terms you wish would start trending on Twitter right now?

#BestPeople #ScatterSunshine #WhyYouMatter

What’s the most interesting connection you’ve made through Twitter?

Inside Editions Deborah Norville. We were sharing quotes on Twitter, & through that she came on the Podcast! Celebs R Real on Twitter. :)

Hashtag you created that you wish everyone used?

#BestPeople because we are :)

What inspires you to tweet?

Making the world a better place. It takes each of us to make a difference for all of us.

Ever get called out for tweeting too much?

LOL! Probably, because terrific tweeples tend to do that! I have logged over 100K tweets to date!!

How do you imagine Twitter changing?

Each person will have a personal twitter brand on demand – the new calling card for the 21st century.

What is one of the biggest misconceptions of Twitter?

That 140 Characters is not enough to make a difference in the world.

Why should people follow you?

I am dedicated to providing tweets with value, tips you can trust, resources you can use, in a fresh fun way which inspires greatness,

How do you decide what to tweet?

What inspires me and what I think will inspires others with genuine value to make their life better in that very moment.

How do you use social media to motivate yourself or others to live a healthier life?

I LOVE sharing quotes & connecting People. 140 Characters that inspire, motivate, uplift, give hope & love to all who follow.

How has social media helped bring your family closer together and #keepgoodgoing?

All my immediate family has passed away – but I always tweet: “Friends are the Family we Choose for Ourselves.”

Why’d you start tweeting?

My website designer Gary Reichel said it was the future and I better learn how to tweet to be successful & make a difference. Glad he did!!

Has Twitter changed your life? If yes, how?

Yes becuz I have new friends & Biz opp’s & guests on the podcast I could never imagine meeting without twitter. Anything is possible now!

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What do you wish people would do more of on Twitter?

Introduce people to other people they think feel or believe would be good to know each other.

How will the world change in the next year?

We will realize & understand how deeply we are all connected. I matter, you matter. It takes each of us to make a difference for all of us.

What are some big Twitter faux pas?

I hate when people buy followers and then brag about how many followers they have as if they were real fans.

What will the world be like 10 years from now?

More like the SyFy Channels Continuum Series – Technology on Demand.

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Best of the Best – Top 30 List

Taking time to reflect on my blessings is one way I can always humble myself to be grateful.

I have found through my share of painful trials and tribulations in the human skin suit experience, gratitude is the most powerful antibiotic against jealousy, depression or any other of a large variety of spiritual sucking unhappiness vampire vices which steal the joy and peace out of a loving human life.

The Best People We Know Radio Show on Blog Talk Radio,
which began with a handful of listeners in September 2010
as a personal dream and vision to “Make a Positive Difference” in the world,  has now surpassed Half-A-Million 500K global listeners,
ranking in the top 1-2% in 18 categories including:
Self-Help | Life | Writing | Books | Family | Moms | Women |
Spirituality | Fitness | Health | Travel | Goals |Entertainment |
Current Events | Social Media | Psychology | Marketing | Business

Nothing short of amazing, this success belongs to each of you who listen and support and share the show week in and week out, month after month, with your family and friends, on twitter, facebook, linkedin and so many more.  Your presence is a testimony that being authentic, digging deep into the business of living, and searching for creative means to be the best person each of us is created to be, is alive and kicking, connecting the hearts and souls of so many worldwide.

While each show is always a gift and a hit in my personal view, these Top 30 shows have been the most popular for 2012 with each of you.  Tips, tools, inspiration and motivation to help you be your very best.

Top 30 Best People We Know Radio Show

The 30 Most Popular Shows for 2012:

Immaculee’ Ilbegezia
Surviving the Rwanda Genocide – Left to Tell – A True Story of Hope & Forgiveness

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/12/05/immacule-ilibagiza-the-rwanda-genocide–left-to-tell

 

 

Paulette Ensign
How to Turn Your Tips into Profitable Products

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/12/13/paulette-ensign-turn-your-tips-into-profitable-products

Dr. Joseph Burgo
Why Do I Do That? Going into your Subconscience Mind

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/12/10/dr-joesph-burgo-why-do-i-do-that

 

 

 

Deborah Norville
Beyond the Screen – Up Close & Personal

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/11/02/deborah-norville

 

 

 

Kit Johnson
Dodging Suicide – Dealing with Being BiPolar

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/11/27/kit-johnson-dodging-suicide–being-bipolar

Lorna Byrne
A Message of Hope from the Angels

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/11/07/lorna-byrne-a-message-of-hope-from-the-angels

 

 

 

Susan Miner
Self – Love, Beauty & the Confident Woman

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/11/01/susan-miner-self-love-beauty-the-confident-woman

 

 

 

Anastasia Montejano
Finding & Creating Your Dream Job

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/10/25/anastasia-montejano–create-your-dream-job

Lin Klaassen
Face Reading – What They are Saying Without Words

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/10/30/lin-klaassen-face-reading-what-they-say-without-words

Sharon McRill
How to Start a Business from Scratch

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/10/23/sharon-mcrill-how-to-start-a-business-from-scratch

 

 

 

Dr. Lisa Cassileth & Lisa Jay Davis
New Breast Cancer Genetic Testing & Treatment

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/10/18/dr-lisa-cassileth-lisa-jey-davis-new-breast-cancer-news

 

 

 

Dr. Jennifer Taitz
How to End Emotional Eating

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/10/12/dr-jennifer-taitz-end-emotional-eating

 

 

 

Lori Campbel
Age Potential – Be Your Best as You Age

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/10/15/lori-campbel-loving-your-life-at-every-age–agepotential

Elise Ballard
Epiphany – True Stories of Sudden Change

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/10/11/elise-ballard-epiphany–true-stories-of-sudden-change

 

 

 

George Lewis
Spiritual but not Religious TV

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/09/26/george-lewis-spiritual-but-not-religious-tv–sbn

Teresa de Grosbois
How to Be a Best Selling Author

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/09/20/teresa-de-grosbois-how-to-be-a-best-selling-author

Ken Kragen
Producer/Director – We Are the World – The 12 Dogs of Christmas Family Movie

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/10/10/ken-kragen-the-12-dogs-of-christmas–new-family-movie

Amy Ohm
The Treatment Diaries – Health Answers & Support

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/09/18/amy-ohm-health-answers-support-the-treatment-diaries

 

 

 

Pearce Quensberry
Stand Up 2 Cancer – 15 Year Old Survivor

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/09/05/pearce-quensberry-15-year-old-cancer-survivor-shares

Michelle Rosenthal
How to Overcome PTSD Post Traumatic Stress

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/08/02/michelle-rosenthalhow-to-overcome-trauma

Wayne Scot Lukas
Celebrity Stylist – The Secret Ingrediant for Beauty Inside & Out

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/08/05/wayne-scot-lukas-celebrity-stylist–the-secret-ingrediant

Marni Spencer Devlin
Why Anything is Possible to Overcome – True Story

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/07/19/marni-spencer-devlin-why-anything-is-possbile–true-story

 

 

 

Wendy Joy
Awakening into Your Life

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/07/12/wendy-joy-awakening

Tony Denison
Actor – The Closer & Major Crimes

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/06/18/tony-denison-blue-collar-values-in-a-gold-collar-career

 

 

 

Dr. Carrie Louise Daennell
Healing the Aging Metabolism

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/06/12/dr-carrie-louise-daenell-healing-the-aging-metabolism

Karen Cote
Marketing for Romance Writers

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/05/08/karen-cote-romance–its-complicated

Eleesha
The Soul Whisperer

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/01/05/eleesha-the-soul-whisperer-finding-your-purpose-power

Jeremy McDonald
Spiritual Strength to Clear the Fear

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/04/19/jeremy-mcdonald-how-to-overcome-fear

 

 

 

Robin Sullivan
Get Your Book Published

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/02/14/robin-sullivan-get-your-book-published

 

 

 

Call in Coaching
With CPC Elizabeth & Deb

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/04/30/call-in-coaching-with-cpcs-deb-elizabeth

 

 

 

For a complete list of all 250+ shows visit The Best People We Know Show on iTunes.

Do you have a topic or idea you want us to cover in a show?  We would love to hear from you – please take a moment to comment below And stay tuned for exciting new plans to expand and serve more value, new content and fresh ideas in the coming year.

Thank you for being part of The Best People We Know family, and don’t forget to share your one-of-a-kind shine in each and every way which inspires your heart to come alive. Go, be love, the world needs you.

Special thanks to the creator and pioneer of Blog Talk Radio, Alan Levy, and his committed staff of enthusiastic professionals, Amy, Shannon and John, for making this show possible.

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC, is a Certified Professional Coach, Top Rated Radio Host of The Best People We Know Radio Show with over half a million listeners, and a four time Award Winning Author for the best in Self-Help, Self-Improvement, Motivation & New Non-Fiction for: The Sky is Green & The Grass is Blue.
Deb specializes in helping people turn things around, whether it’s in business, or in the business of living.
Her unique combination of twenty years as a consistent sales professional & leadership award winner as a Cardiac Surgery Sales Specialist, combined with her personal experience of facing & healing from sexual abuse, dysfunctional relationships, others’ alcoholism, being a sole care giver to the death for both her parents, and even financial tragedy, offers individuals a unique opportunity to learn new ways of thinking, doing and being in the face of life’s most painful obstacles.
Discover how to bring good out of the bad, keep hope alive, and know your best life is yet to come.

 

 

5 Lessons I Learned from having Breast Cancer

Guest blog post from the Sunshine Survivor:  Annie Mattil Coyne

Annie with daughter Kelsey during Chemotherapy Treatments

One-It is what it is.
Whether the Doctor tells you that you have 6 months to live or they tell you that with surgeries, radiation, chemotherapy, you have a chance to survive. It is ultimately your choice how you deal with it. You can make it the most miserable time of your life or you can embrace the awareness of how precious life really is. I personally chose the high road. My statistics were not great with stage 3 breast cancer. I had a nine month old daughter and I made the decision to fight this in the most positive way I could. I took time for me, to learn how my body dealt with stress, and worked really hard to teach my body and mind to connect in a positive way. Two mastectomies, chemotherapy,radiation, and lots of inner therapy work, fourteen years later I am cancer free today. Hard work pays off.

Two- People have different reactions to illness.
Some of the most loving friends I have, were not really present during my treatments. While others were there with me through it all. I learned that for some people it is to painful for them to see someone they care about struggling through illness. It is not because they do not care, I think sometimes they distance themselves to protect themselves in case something happens, the pain won’t be so bad. They really don’t know what to do. Just being there for the person is what you need to do…just let them know you are there.

Three-When you are a survivor, from anything, your life is never the same again.
It changes you as a person. There are people who will go back to their old life and act like nothing happened…but it is always there. I felt renewed, reborn, blessed. I felt like I was here for a purpose. I found that purpose opening my own hair salon and specializing in selling wigs to cancer patients. I opened my salon one year to the date of my diagnosis. I meet people in their first stages of their journey.I encourage them to be positive and to stay strong and to take charge of their illness. I share my story. No matter how bad your situation, I believe everyone has a purpose. Sometimes you don’t even know you’re purpose. I have a good friend who has been chasing hers, and recently I told her that she has written a book of her life experiences, she has a talk blog radio station connecting great people, I believe she is present in her purpose.She just didn’t know it.

Four- Society is so hung up on body image.
I had reconstruction with my mastectomies, but I never added anything to the breast tissue, so I just have scars. I never realized how much our society focuses on breast until you don’t have them. I have had moments where I have really felt the loss. I tried to explain to my husband when we were on vacation and the resort allowed women to go topless that I felt like it was like bringing someone without legs to a road race. I know that sounds shallow but I really felt the emotional pain. A body part is a body part. I do not dwell on it and I admire women that choose no reconstruction at all.

Five- Society does not like to talk about death.
Let’s face it, we are all going to die sometime. But none one wants to mention it. I have lost a few friends from cancer and when they found out that there was not much more the medical world could do, they wanted to talk about it. A few of them came to me. They said they could not discuss it with their families because they didn’t want to talk about it saying “you will be fine” when in reality they weren’t going to be fine. Or they thought they were giving up. One of my friends was concerned about his funeral…where to have it..what would the music be and so on. To this day I think he had the nicest funeral I have ever been to. He planned the whole thing out. Dedicated songs to certain people, Invited people to share stories..a real celebration of his life. Sometimes just having everything planned also takes a lot of stress off of the family. We as a society should really be able to handle this much better. After all we are always taught we are going to a better place..right?

Annie Mattil Coyne

Well that’s a few of my thoughts.
I am working on a book..from diagnosis through treatment.
The book is called Sunshine Survivor.
The name of my salon is Positive Energy Salon & Boutique in
Exeter, New Hampshire.
I do believe cancer has led me to my calling!

Annie

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