The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue

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About the Book “This Book Is A Rewarding experience!” K.B.

National Book Award Winner

Do you want to be happy? Of course! We all want to be peaceful, purposeful, and experience authentic, lasting joy. The Sky is Green and the Grass is Blue, offers fresh, fun, and surprising ways to live in lasting happiness. All ages will enjoy learning how to transform ANYTHING bad into a diamond you LOVE.

Ready to receive a powerful, and effective mind vitamin to be happy? These pages were written for you! Whether you’re a creative spirit or a businessperson, “The Sky is Green” offers insights into happiness from which all can benefit.

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About the Author

Deb Scott has provided a fresh perspective to an well-plowed field: empowerment. With wit, humor and extremely well-chosen quotes, she takes the reader through the tools needed to take control of their own life and find joy in doing so. -Sandy Weaver; Radio & Television PersonalitySomething unique and innovative that sets a new standard. -Dr. Alex Concorde


Think you tried everything? You didn’t try this!

  • Do you want to feel refreshed and hopeful about all the new possibilities in your life?
  • Do you want to turn your troubles into useful stepping stones towards happiness?
  • Do you want to discover your greatness and step into your purpose with passion?

This book is a practical, easy to read guide for those who are ready to turn things around in their life, and especially for those who feel they have already tried everything to achieve this goal. Young and old will find these fresh ideas an effective antibiotic to the disease of unhappiness, and a powerful preventative medicine against getting stuck in unproductive thinking or energy depleting relationships with self and others.

Deb Scott, BA, CPC is four time Award Winning Author in Self-Help, Motivation, Deb Scott Award Winning Author Best New Non-Fiction and Self-Improvement for ‘The Sky is Green & The Grass is Blue.’ Deb is a Featured & Top Rated Radio Host of The Best People We Know Show on Blog Talk Radio, with over 1 Million global listeners ranking in the top 1-2% of popularity in 20 categories. The show was an award winner for Best Podcaster in the Shorty Awards.

A high honors Biology major in college, Deb became an award winning Cardiovascular Sales Specialist for twenty years. Deb has worked with and been in surgery with some of the best Cardiac Surgeons in the world. Deb helps people transform their lives by combining her unique practical business and leadership experience as a successful professional, with her passion to help people be the best person they were created to be. Deb has overcome sexual abuse, other’s alcoholism, family dysfunction, been the sole care giver for each of her parents until their passing of cancer, and even encountered financial devastation. Deb understands pain, suffering and is no stranger to even death. Regardless of how hopeless or frustrated you may feel about your situation, Deb can help you find the gifts and good in any circumstance, to know without a doubt the best is yet to come.

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TestimonialIf you want to meet the most powerful and amazing person you will ever know, let Deb Scott introduce you to YOU! Within the pages of this book Deborah offers her first hand advice to gently and effectively guide you, including easy exercises which can assist you, in turning your challenges into celebrations. -Sumner M. Davenport; Results Coach, Bounce-Back Expert;Best Selling Author; The “G” spot, The ecstasy of life through GRATITUDE.
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How to Forgive

How do I forgive? More specifically:  How do I forgive the unforgivable?

How do I Forgive?

I believe this is a universal question many of us struggle with. What about you?

I recently had the opportunity to participate in a Forgiveness Global TeleSummit hosted by Nancy Battye with 33 other speakers (click here for the details). The panel and listeners brought up a number of great questions and personal experiences I thought I would share with you.

Here are some highlights to help you heal and forgive.

Forgiveness is in the Will, not in the Feeling

Many people get stuck on being able to forgive because they mistakingly define forgiveness as an emotion instead of an action.

Forgiveness is NOT a feeling. Feelings are nice, and eventually the hope to be free from the emotional negative charge of what you have forgiven, is certainly a worthwhile byproduct of having forgiven. But.. it is not the first step in the process of forgiveness. The very first step is in your free will to make a choice to forgive.

So what do I have to do to forgive using my free will?

You have forgiven if you:

1.Wish no ill will or harm to the person who has treated you unjustly.

2.You pray or send englightenment to the person you are trying to forgive to change for the better – because their soul needs more help than yours.

3.Leave it to God or your Higher Power to resolve the issue in a manner of divine justice for the good of all involved.

Forgiveness is not your idea of making the wrong right, but allowing God to make the wrong right.

Self Forgiveness

Your ability to forgive someone else is a direct reflection of how much you are able to forgive yourself.

Consider the following scenario…

A perfect stranger in the street yells out your are stupid and ugly – how do you react? Probably without much emotion considering the source.

Now imagine the person you love most saying the exact same words to you. How do you feel now? Probably much different from the first scenario.

Why?

The words were exactly the same – but your emotional response was completely different. The only deduction you can logically make is that it is more than the words which matter to you. It is not what is said – but the source of your emotional connection to the person who speaks to you, what their relationships means to you, what trigger they push in you from your past., and how you view yourself.

Salt only hurts when it hits an open wound. The fact you are in pain proves there is wound open which you need to heal.

When in Pain, Focus on:

1. What is the gut reaction teaching me? What do I need to learn about myself?

2. What is the wound I need to heal?

3. Be grateful for the gift of discovering the real issue and the opportunity to finally heal, so you can be emotionally free from it.

Don’t Obsess

Over thinking the problem, pain and past event does nothing except hurt you again.

If you don’t let go of this negativity, you must ask yourself these two questions:
“Why do I want to keep myself marinated in this poison of self destruction?”
Why do I not love myself enough to stop staying in the pain?”

Give up the hope of a better past.  Focus your precious energy on what you can control and change for the better.

Forgiveness begins with forgiving yourself. Trusting God more, and depending on yourself less. Listening to the whispers and warning signs God may be giving you in the silence of your prayer, or through other people.

Forgiveness is a process

You don’t put an acorn seed in the ground and expect a full grown 20 foot acorn tree to be looking back at you 20 minutes later! Why would you expect this unreasonable result from yourself?

Be patient with yourself, and focus on the size of your God and the great progress you have made. Not the size of your problem or how far you think you have to go.

“He who does not forgive digs two graves.” Chinese Proverb

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC

Deb is Author of the 2 x National Award Winning Book The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue - turning your upside down world right side up!, a Certified Professional Coach at Discover the Amazing YOU! Coaching, and host of the hit new Best People We Know Show! on Blog Talk Radio. Self Help Radio

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Grieving into Healing: Hope in Suffering

Funeral for a Friend

It has been said, “Anyone can die, but not everyone can live.”

Funeral For a Friend

Can you relate to this?

I have been attempting to go to daily Mass for Lent (please don’t hate me because I’m Catholic!), and it just so happened the other day was a Funeral Mass for no one in particular I knew. Or did I?

As I sat through the service, I felt as though I had known “Cliff” all my life. Being in the presence of his family and friends, created a powerful visual of ME being laid in that casket, and how I would feel, what I would leave behind, when I die? We all die.

New Life from Death – What are YOU here for?

As thoughts raced through the recess of my heart, I realized there were four critical keys which seemed to last. I call them the four for living before you die.

The Journey of Your Life

The word “for” as defined by Webster’s dictionary is; “with the purpose of,” “intended to belong to or used in connection with,” “in order to obtain, gain or acquire, suiting the purpose of or needs of.”

So what on earth are YOU here for?

1.  Better for having met you?

One of my favorite quotes is,”people won’t remember what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel.” I try to live my life so that everyone I have met is better off for the experience. Of course, this demands I live consciously, in the present moment, with active listening, and a genuine concern for my effect on every person I meet. How are people better off for having met you?

2.  More Forgiveness less Resentment?

Not living in forgiveness only hurts you. Remaining in a state of resentment is like “taking arsenic and expecting the other person to die.” It’s simply insane! Forgiveness is NOT in the feeling; it’s only in the action. If someone has wronged you (and we all have been unjustly wronged), forgiving them is simply letting them go, wishing them no ill will, not acting revengefully, and trusting that God, the Universe, your Higher Power, will take care of the justice in the given situation. Forgiveness is like a pair of scissors, which cuts you out of the web of toxicity, setting you free to fly. Forgiveness is your freedom which detaches you from recycling pain. “Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional.” Who or what do you need to forgive?

3.  Less Forcing Outcomes and more Acceptance?

I don’t know about you, but most of my plans, good or bad, never turn out exactly as I planned. Some much better, some a heck of a lot worse. Are you aware you are part of the natural flow in the river of life? Accepting the way things are, instead of the way you want them to be, removes control you have to know everything. How can you truly know the long term outcome of any given situation anyway? Can you recall an event you thought for sure would be bad, which turned out great? Of course! Heroic humility allows you to be teachable in every moment, learning new ways of being, doing and feeling. Accept life on life’s terms, and embrace the possibilities. What do you need to detach from and accept today?

4.  Check your Motivation – is it always for Giving more Love?

You can do the right thing for the wrong reason, which makes it ultimately worthless to you. How can you always know the truth of a situation; check your motivation. If your motivation is self serving, for personal gain, involves pride and control, get rid of it. The only report card you’ll be getting in earth school is reflecting back on your life and determining whatever you did, did you do it with love? Check your motivation – are you doing it with love?

The best way to take your spiritual temperature on this is to identify the measurement of your internal peace vs. confusion. Where there is peace in the core of your heart, there is truth for you. This is your purpose, your call, your gift to the world. You will always be in the arms of love which lasts a lifetime when you are living in peace and truth.

Sit in the classroom of silence to listen to the words you most need to hear.

Reflecting on your death can bring new life. You are here for a necessary reason, in your circle of influence, no one else can touch the world with the exact sparkle of you. The world needs you! Get out and live with boldness and passion. How do you want to be remembered when the funeral for a friend is the friend in you?

Every End is a New Beginning

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC is Author of the 2 x National Award Winning Book The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue - turning your upside down world right side up!, a Certified Professional Coach at Discover the Amazing YOU! Coaching, and host of the hit new Best People We Know Show! on Blog Talk Radio.  Sign up for Debs Newsletter today!

Celebrity Interview – Montel Williams and Deb Scott

Man of Power and Women of Power!

Montel Williams and Deb Scott are interviewed by Award Winning Radio Host, Raven Blair Davis.

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Award Winning CNN and CBS Radio Host: Raven Blair Davis - “The Talk Show Maven” combines two unstoppable people of power in this amazing rare interview to inspire, motivate, and emPOWER you to be unstoppable.

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Award winning Talk Show Host Montel Williams speaks to Raven from the heart and shares a chilling experience he had 10 years ago when he “thought” he was having a heart attack. You’ll also hear Montel speak about the effect MS has on his body. The importance of not taking life for granted, Montel talks about the day he got fired over the telephone and how he was forced to take control of the situation and create a new opportunity for himself and shares why we should to start paying attention (focus) to our physical and psychological well being …..starting today!

Listen as Raven gets up close and personal with Life Coach and Award Winning Author, Deb Scott.  How Deb overcame the battles you may have experienced too.  Sexual Abuse, others’ alcoholism, family dysfunction, depression, an abusive relationship, care taking to death, and financial devastation.  Find out why you are only as sick as your secrets, and how the most difficult challenge you battle today can actually be a springboard to your most cherished celebration in your tomorrow.

This is a must listen to life changing combination of how to use your deep pain and turn it into positive productive power!

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Death into New Life!

mom and nana 1950 in vermontWhen my mom, and best friend (Rachel) passed away in 2005, I was left dead with her. In the depth of pain, I never felt or saw anything good in her passing. I took comfort she was happier in heaven, than suffering the slow death of cancer eating away at her, but in the all about me show – I was left here alone, empty, without her. [Read more…]