Why I Thank God for Stress – 7 Reasons You Can Too

I never thought I would be thanking God for feeling stress, fear or anxiety, but I am here to tell you I do. It is a gift. It is a loud danger sign I have come to appreciate and respect. I don’t fight it anymore, I am grateful when it shows up.

How can stress be a positive protector to help you prune out the poisonous people, places and things in your life? What can you do to transform the trouble of today into the triumph of tomorrow? Is there a secret?

This was the topic of a recent discussion I had with Lauren Miller for her Stress Solutions University program.

Imagine for a moment you are driving to meet a friend. You get in the car and probably encounter a red light, slow down for a stop sign, or yield into a rotary. Do you for one moment yell at the red light, resent the stop sign, or get angry because you have to yield? No. You are grateful these signs exist to help protect you from the very real potential danger and destruction of a car accident. You are thankful someone placed these signals across your journey to help protect you from disaster. You humbly accept and follow the rules of the road as a positive part of your everyday travel.

In the same way, God gives you intuitive signals in your five senses to help navigate you safely through life.

The stress you feel when someone betrays you, the anxiety that overwhelms you in a work environment, the sick feeling in your stomach about a decision you have been procrastinating to face. These are all hidden gifts you need to unwrap. God is trying to help you be safe from danger. Stop and pay attention.

How can the feeling of fear or stress become a friend?

  1. Stop and immediately acknowledge and accept your feeling of stress. Notice where and how you are feeling stress in your body.
  2.  Thank God for giving you a sign to protect yourself from danger. Take a power pause.
  3.  Sit in silence with your feelings and ask, “What can I learn from this?” Discover yourself, you’re worth it.
  4.  Recognize that if you are feeling stress, anxiety, fear or confusion, you need to change direction from the source or trigger of these negative emotions. Protect yourself.
  5.  What new actions can you create as a result of this new awareness? What new choices are now available to you? You always have a choice.
  6. Ask God, pray, and/or meditate for the grace, wisdom and courage to implement one of these new options which brings you the most peace. Compassion for yourself is your quickest cure.
  7.  Remember, you don’t need to understand how God is showing up with this message for you to benefit from its’ effects. You use a lot of things in your day that you don’t understand how they work, but you don’t boycott using them because you don’t understand how the results are achieved. Trust.

Consider each seed of stress you despise, can be a source of strength which helps you a grow a great life you love.

 

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC is a four time award winning author of, The Sky is Green & the Grass is Blue (a Kindle Top 20 Best Seller!), and a top rated best podcaster winner for, The Best People We Know Show, with over 1 million global listeners, and a Top 1% Kred Social Media Influencer. Deb spent twenty years as a cardiovascular surgical specialist, winning numerous awards for outstanding sales and leadership skills.  In her personal life, Deb battled sexual abuse, others’ alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, depression, was the sole caregiver to both her parents who fought cancer to their death, and even experienced financial devastation.  Today, Deb helps people turn things around in their business, or the business of living, with the discovery of the amazing you.

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When Things Seem to be at Their Worst – Remember this…..

(As Featured in Simple Steps to Real Change Magazine)

Anyone who tells you they don’t have a bad day now and then, or some tough moments of struggle, or has all the answers, is a liar. Run away as fast as you can in the opposite direction.

The truth is, as long as you are living on planet earth in the skin suit, you are going to have to deal with some amount of pain, sorrow and sadness. In situations such as these, it is important to remember this: there is always a big picture.

How can remembering there is a bigger picture in the immediate moment of unhappiness help to alleviate your pain? How can this one awareness transform the horrible into the tolerable, or even acceptable? How can this belief help you feel better when you are in the midst of feeling your worst?

Consider your current difficulty is the catalyst for a change which elevates you in two years to begin the new business you have yearned to create for over a decade. Consider your current difficulty is the catalyst for change which elevates you to understand your true vocation is to share your story with the world and write your book. Consider your current difficulty is the catalyst for change which elevates you to break free from fear and the demons of doubt holding you back from enjoying your own company regardless of outside opinions. Consider all the possibilities!

My point is this:
In the moment of your greatest pain you will never feel the future joy of your
authentic happiness.
 

Just us darkness and light can never coexist together in the same moment; the seeds of change will never be a visible harvest which has fully blossomed. One must end for the other to begin. It’s all a process.

Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.

If you can stop to consider you don’t know what you don’t know, you don’t know if your perception of a bad thing in the present moment will not transform into a beautiful success of magnificent joy in the future. You just don’t know!

Here are a few simple steps to help you squeeze out the good in the midst of the bad.

Write down what you have learned from this (enter here) experience.

Example:
I have learned to not trust this person’s word – only their actions.
List the qualities you have appreciated in yourself in this experience.

Example:
I acted with honesty and integrity in this situation and I had the courage to communicate with this person with respect.
Make a promise to yourself of a good change you will implement immediately because of this experience.

Example:
I will accept people as they are and not try to change them. I will keep the focus on myself.

So remember, when you feel like all hope is lost, remember your feelings have nothing to do with the fact you have truly gained your ultimate greatness.                                                                                                                                                                   

 

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Best 7 Steps to Live a Happy Life Right Now

I sometimes feel we rush through life grasping to capture future happiness in exchange for the good life we already own. We chase what might or might not be for what already is. Could it be we are dying to live that beautiful life?

I recently had a hospice medical doctor on the radio show who challenges each of us to consider the possibility many of our most “noble” desires to attain success are surreptitiously leading us right over the cliff to death.

Karen Wyatt, MD researched this notion by collecting a review of her many patients on deaths door, asking them what lessons mattered to them the most. In retrospect, what did they wish they had done or not done to live an everyday existence overflowing with peace, joy and personal fulfillment? These real life experiences were threaded together by these seven rules and how to accomplish each on a daily basis:

1. Suffering – embrace your difficulties.
2. Love – let your heart be broken.
3. Forgiveness – hold no resentments.
4. Paradise – dwell in the present moment.
5. Purpose – manifest your highest potential.
6. Surrender – let go of expectations.
7. Impermanence – face your fear.

So are you dying to live your beautiful life? Are you buying the lies of counterfeit happiness in exchange for the genuine gifts you have yet to unwrap? Is the value of your precious life worth considering a change in values and/or priorities?

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Deb Scott, BA, CPC

Deb is Author of the National Four time Award Winner in: Self-Help | Motivation | Best New Non-Fiction | Self-Improvement; The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue - , and a featured host of the popular Best People We Know Show! on Blog Talk Radio, with over 750K global listeners, over 300 shows, and top rated in 18 categories.

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10 Tips to Making Good Decisions

By Certified Coach
Deb Scott 

 

“Should I, or shouldn’t I?”

The question is not if you must make decisions, but how to make  good decisions.

Here are my Top 10 Tips to Make Good Decisions.

 

 Making Good Decisions

 

1  Write down the Objective.

What is it you ultimately want to accomplish.  Get a new job, move or start a business is not specific enough.  The objective should be clearly stated in a way which describes the benefits of achieving the goal.  “I want to move to a warm climate where I can engage in outdoor activities year round and simply my life with a lower cost of living.”  VS “I want to move.”

2.  Collect Facts:  Good AND Bad

Do your Homework and gather all the information, good and bad, like and dislike.  You are not making the decision here, just a sound assessment of all your options for consideration.  There is no rush to get through this critical step.  Researcher Paul Nutt states, “Only 1 in 10 decisions is urgent. Only 1 in 100 is a crisis. You have time to reflect.”   The more time you take to gather all the information, the better your decision is likely to be.

3. List Possible Consequences of Decision

Brain storm all the possible outcomes of each decision and choice.  Detach from the emotion – focus on all the possibilities.  What would happen if? How would I feel if?   Listing extreme positives and negatives at this stage is a good idea.

4. Do a Gut Check

Now that you have completed the above steps, sit in a quiet spot where you will not be disturbed and visualize each scenario you have listed.  How does you gut feel?  Is your stomach in knots?  Is your heart beating with excitement?  Pay attentions to what your body is telling you and write it down.

5. Don’t Over Think

Avoid placing judgement on what you have written down.  Be open to the fact you might not know, what you don’t know.

6.  Make the Decision

Review the good work you have completed and tabulate what choice brings you the most favorable results, along with the most positive physical gut reaction.  These facts will lead you to the best choice.  remember, the best choice is not the perfect choice.  There is no perfect choice.

7. Stick with Your Decision

Once you have made your decision, trust the process.  Follow-through to the end, because you don’t want to give up 5 minutes before the miracle.

8.  Give Yourself Permission to Navigate the Unexpected

Be sensible in the sense you must give yourself permission to navigate differently in the event of an unexpected crisis.  Obviously ‘life is happening while you make other plans’, so know that even the best thought out plan will be altered in the face of earth quakes and funerals.

9.  Review and Assess

Take time to review and asses your progress often.  This will encourage you to continue when you are able to validate positive results, and tweak your direction as needed to maintain forward momentum.

10. No Regrets

Regardless of what you expected your decision to create, congratulate yourself that you made the best decision possible with the information you had available to you at the time.  There is not a person alive, and especially some of the greatest successes in history, who hasn’t had the opportunity to learn from a decision.

Following these 10 tips allows you to follow a logical process of consequences based on completion of each task.  The answers unfold naturally for you, rather than you struggling to make something fit where it does not belong.

 

 The Rational Planning Model

 

“The rational planning model is the process of realizing a problem, establishing and evaluating planning criteria, creating alternatives, implementing alternatives, and monitoring progress of the alternatives. It is used in designing neighborhoods, cities, and regions. The rational planning model is central in the development of modern urban planning and transportation planning.”

Remember, good decision-making is a skill, and like any skill it can be learned.  The more you practice this process of good decision-making, the more skilled you will become at making good decisions every day!

 

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Clear the Fear

Are you one of the 5 million estimated Americans who experiences the emotional and often devastating effects of fear related stress?

“According to the National Institute of Mental Health, 19 million people in the United States alone suffer from mental illnesses that involve irrational fear responses. These disorders include generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder and post-traumatic stress disorder.”

Clear the Fear

Do you ever feel paralyzed by fear?
Fear to change yourself, your career, your relationships?
Fear to try something new?
Fear of failure, loss or even what people might think of you?

Yes, everyone experiences fear to some degree, but not everyone uses fear as a stepping stone instead of a stumbling block.

 

Making Fear a Friend.

At the end of this article our goal is to provide you with tangible tools to:

1. Accurately define what Fear is and what Fear is not.

2. Understand Clinical Data about Fear and Successful Studies how to Overcome Fear.

3. Exercises to help you Clear the Fear from a negative obstacle into a positive opportunity.

 

Are you Born with Fear?

By definition, everyone experiences fear. “It is a distressing negative sensation induced by a perceived threat. It is a basic survival mechanism occurring in response to a specific stimulus, such as pain or the threat of danger.” Fear is a necessary survival mechanism in all human beings.

Anxiety- is future-oriented fear because we cannot control what will happen next.

Panic- is becoming intimidated by something that reminds a person of their fear, creating an alarm response.

Physiological changes in the body associated with fear, the “fight or flight” response, can include:

Rapid heart rate
Increased blood pressure
Tightening of muscles
Increased sweating

 

Good Fear VS Bad Fear

Good fear serves a good purpose. For example, if you have to give a major presentation to a group of professionals at your place of work, fear can motivate you to sharpen your skills to practice and deliver an excellent presentation.

Bad Fear is when fear becomes irrational and excessive, it can become crippling and instigate a cascade of destructive feelings, thoughts and behaviors.

 

Name a personal experience of Good Fear and Bad Fear below:

Good Fear____________________________________________________

Bad Fear_____________________________________________________

 

Creating Fear

“In the 1920s, American psychologist John Watson taught an infant to fear white rats. “Little Albert” had no fear of the laboratory’s test animals. He showed joy at the sight of the white rats especially and always reached out for them. Watson and his assistant taught Albert to be terrified of white rats. They used Pavlovian (classical) conditioning, pairing a neutral stimulus (the rat) with a negative effect. Whenever Albert reached for one of the rats, they created a terrifyingly loud noise right behind the 11-month-old child. Not only did Albert very quickly learn to fear the white rats, crying and moving away whenever he saw one, but he also started to cry in the presence of other furry animals and a Santa Claus mask with a white beard.”

“Like Little Albert’s fear of white rats, a person’s fear of dogs is most likely a conditioned response. Perhaps he was bitten by a dog when he was three years old. Twenty years later, the person’s brain (the amygdala in particular) still associates the sight of a dog with the pain of a bite.”

 

Clearing the Fear

Fear extinction is creating a positive conditioned response that counteracts the negative fear response, usually involving exposure to an outside stimuli. However, scientists have discovered ” stimulating a protein called NMDA (N-methyl D-asparate) in the amygdala can enhance fear extinction.”

Identify a fear you want to eliminate and re-frame:

_____________________________________________________________

"I Want to Clear Away this Fear"

Kerry Ressler, associate professor in the department of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Emory University is studying the biology of fear. And the impact of a neurotrophic factor known as BDNF. “We’re studying how the biology of the brain is changed by the environment, and how these changes underlie memories and experiences.”

Stumbling Blocks into Stepping Stones

The Prevention magazine article “What are you afraid of?: 8 secrets that make fear disappear” offers these tips for dealing with everyday fears:

  1. It doesn’t matter why you’re scared.
    Knowing why you’ve developed a particular fear doesn’t do much to help you overcome it, and it delays your progress in areas that will actually help you become less afraid. Stop trying to figure it out.
  2. Learn about the thing you fear.
    Uncertainty is a huge component of fear: Developing an understanding of what you’re afraid of goes a long way toward erasing that fear.
  3. Train.
    If there’s something you’re afraid to try because it seems scary or difficult, start small and work in steps. Slowly building familiarity with a scary subject makes it more manageable.
  4. Find someone who is not afraid.
    If there’s something you’re afraid of, find someone who is not afraid of that thing and spend time with that person. Take her along when you try to conquer your fear — it’ll be much easier.
  5. Talk about it.
    Sharing your fear out loud can make it seem much less daunting.
  6. Play mind games with yourself.
    If you’re afraid of speaking in front of groups, it’s probably because you think the audience is going to judge you. Try imagining the audience members naked — being the only clothed person in the room puts you in the position of judgment.
  7. Stop looking at the grand scheme.
    Think only about each successive step. If you’re afraid of heights, don’t think about being on the fortieth floor of a building. Just think about getting your foot in the lobby.
  8. Seek help.
    Fear is not a simple emotion. If you’re having trouble overcoming your fear on your own, find a professional to help you. There are lots of treatments for fear out there, and no good reason not to try them under the guidance of someone with training and experience

 

Accepting fear is part of the human condition, being able to identify good fear from bad fear, understanding the science behind the cycle of fear, and what you can do to reframe your fear to work for you, instead of against you, is all possible for you with a little help from your friends.

Love and Blessings,

Deb Scott, BA, CPC  and Elizabeth Hamilton-Guarino, BA, CPC

 

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”
Eleanor Roosevelt

 

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How to Make 2012 the BEST Year of YOUR Life!

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Elizabeth is the CEO and Founder of The Best Ever You Network and the host of top-rated “Best Ever You Show” on Blog Talk Radio. Elizabeth is a certified professional life coach, journalist, actress/on-air personality and author. Her two award winning children’s books “Blueberry – A Cat’s Eye View of Maine” (2009) and “Pinky Doodle Bug” (2011) are available where books are sold. Elizabeth and her husband Peter have been married for 13 years and have 4 boys.

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The Assassination Procrastination Project

If you are anything like me,you have battled the destructive disease of procrastination.   

A deadly ill indeed, this dream killer is often associated with false feeding demons of doubt. It is the worst kind of self-sabotage known to any imaginative mind, and begs an antibiotic which successfully solves the symptoms of delaying your delightful destiny.“Procrastination is the kidnapper of souls and the recruiting-officer of hell.” ~ Edward Irving

Stop the Insanity!

Do you suffer symptoms of procrastination?

  1.  I’m just waiting for the perfect time to start.
  2. I hate doing this, I’ll just wait until tomorrow.
  3. I just don’t know where to begin, I am feeling so stressed and overwhelmed.
  4. This is just beyond my ability to ever finish.
  5. If I can’t do it perfectly, it isn’t worth doing.

If you answered yes to any of these, and have decided there is a better way to live your life, read on.

Take your procrastination medicine.

You don’t need Mary Popins to tell you, “A little bit of sugar helps the medicine go down,” so here’s three terrific tips to sweeten your motivation to end procrastination.

  1. Feel the Fruit of Finishing:
    Enter the classroom of silence. Visualize the result of continuing to procrastinate on your target issue. How do you feel? Invigorated or depleted? Energized or empty? Now, visualize finishing your task at hand. How does your head and heart feel now? Do you feel lighter, brighter and more happy? Thinking and feeling the result of your two choices – to procrastinate or not to procrastinate – is a quick and easy way to identify what choice to choose.
  2. Keep your Image of Completion Front and Center:
    A picture is worth a thousand words, and finding an image of the feeling you experienced in your visualization of completing your task at hand, is key. A magazine photo, card, or stick figure will do, just make sure it consistently ignites the positive feeling you want to achieve. Strategically place this picture in places you will see throughout your day, and trust the process to unfold. You can read more about this effort I call ‘successful sabotage’ by clicking here.
  3. Spiral Down the Solution into Small Successes:
    Don’t get stuck in the over-thinking it muck. What are the small things you need to accomplish to achieve the big thing? Break it down, and then break it down into smaller more manageable efforts again. Don’t be attached or overly concerned with your main goal, simply focus on the success of completing the small task at hand in this present moment. Do each step well along the way, and before you know it, the entire journey will be complete!

Celebrate the Baby Steps You Take Along the Way!

Ultimately, you have to love yourself enough to know you are worth the effort! The world needs you, and getting things done which helps you be your best, can have a domino effect to help others be their best too.

If you plant only ‘If’s” and “someday’s” in your garden of life today, don’t be surprised when “nothing” is all that grows tomorrow. Planting seeds of “completion” today,  confidently guarantees you will inevitably grow a happy future of sunshine smiles in all your tomorrows.

“You may delay, but time will not.” ~Benjamin Franklin

 
 
Deb Scott, BA, CPC
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Goal Setting – 3 Simple Steps to Becoming Your Absolute Best!

As seen in Best Ever YOU! Magazine

Make it Happen!

Okay, who doesn’t want to be their best? I mean really, anyone who wants to be truly happy, understands reaching your full potential is a prerequisite to being your BEST EVER YOU! Being your best naturally includes striving for excellence, living your passion, and achieving your personal goals.

What will accomplishing your goals do for you?

1. Increase your self-esteem.
2. Inspire daily living.
3. Make a difference in the world.

Setting goals is to be your very best, is the most unselfish act you could ever do. Why? Because when you are at your best, you are more likely to be an effective instrument to help others be their very best too.

3 Simple Steps to Achieving Your Goals

1. Create a Goal Mission Statement
Define your goal – and WHY you want to make it happen.

If you don’t know where you want to go, then it won’t matter what you do. You must have a clearly written goal complimented by the benefits resulting from achieving the goal.

“I want more more money,” is a goal, but not one you are sure to stay motivated in achieving if you don’t have the passion to power the momentum on a daily basis. Having more money is usually a byproduct of something else you are striving to accomplish.

“I want more money so I can do more marketing in my business to reach more people to inspire them to start theirs,” is a clearly defined goal with a mission statement.

Write down yours…

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Write it Down - Make it Happen

2. Visualize the Experience
How do you feel – Create the experience of achieving your goal.

Studies show your mind can’t tell the difference between a real experience and the one you imagine. It is critical you experience in your body, the feeling of achieving your dream in order to keep you focused in attaining the desired result.

New actions are inspired by the new feelings you want to experience. These new feelings are a result of new thoughts. You need to connect your goal to a feeling which is real for you. A specific tangible result.

Engaging all your 5 senses is a game changer. How do you feel? What do you see? What do you hear? Identify what is happening around you when you achieve the benefit of your goal.

In the example given above, this might look like, “A new client is approaching me in a sold out seminar event, enthusiastically thanking me for helping her move from fear to faith and start her own business.” Wow! I feel lighter than air!

Now your turn..
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Alive in Your Mind

3. Sabotage Yourself for Success
Surround yourself daily with people, resources, and images which Inspire.

Consider this mind vitamin therapy to feed your whole soul. You must have discipline to take your positive energy, to remain empowered to follow your goal to completion.

Organizing your day to help you build your success in every way,is what this step is all about. Place pictures, affirmations, quotes, or any item which consistently ignites a feelingof excitement towards achieving your goal, in places your will inevitably visit throughout your day. A bathroom mirror when brushing your teeth in the morning, your car going to work, your computer, or even by your coffee pot. Wherever you know you will be going, or whatever you will be doing, is the perfect place for your successful sabotage reminder.

In the example we’ve been using, this might look like taking a magazine picture which reminds you of how it will feel to hear someone come up to you and tell you that you changed their life. It might be your favorite quote taped to your fridge which states, “If we don not change our direction, we are likely to end up where we are headed.”

What is your successful sabotage tool(s) and where will you place it(them)?

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I'm Worth the Effort!

You can never review often enough the progress you’re making toward achieving your goal – nor celebrate the little success along the way.

Statistics prove people who are having fun are more likely to persevere in any activity. Keep your focus on the “Why” you want to achieve your goal, the benefits to you and others, and keep that visualization and emotional good feelings front and center throughout your day.

Remember, if you don’t share your unique brilliance in the world, who will?

 

WOW! I want that!

Deb Scott, BA, CPC is author of the award winning motivational book The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue - Turning your upside down world right side up!, a certified professional coach at Discover the Amazing YOU! Coaching, and radio host of the new hit Best People We Know Radio Show! on Blog Talk Radio.  Deb can help you step into your greatness today!

The 1 Product You Must Have in Your Business for 2011 & Why

As Featured in We Magazine and Accomplish Magazine !

Do you have it to give?

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you knew there was one product everyone wanted to buy? I mean really, we all desire to be desirable, and who doesn’t want to have sky rocketing sales in their business? Out with old, and in with the new, this is one item you simply must have to be rising star!

Trust is the Must

A recent study by Yankelovich State of Consumer Reports, illustrates how trust impacts the consequences on your business results.

  • Most consumers show that businesses have earned their trust – even if they charge more.45% have lost trust in a business
    Actions taken when Trust in Business is lost:
    -94% spend less
    -76% tell family and friends
    -58% stop shopping there for some time
    -49% increase business with a competitor – even if competitor is not viewed as any better

Even more disturbing is data which demonstrates this deficiency is systemic in all areas of our life. “Polls record levels of trust in politicians, businessmen, scientists and others that are at all time lows: a crisis in trust is currently gripping Western culture.” “Just 17 per cent of Americans now rate the honesty and ethics of business executives highly,” according to a recent World Economic Forum survey.

Trust in Business is a Success Must

The confidence crisis is surely here.

You may not have thought about making trust your prime business brand,but it is obvious, “trust is the big issue of the 21st century,” business expert Kieron O’Hara. Every business, regardless of product focus, is being evaluated in the category of trust, whether you like it or not.

In fact, “Trust in relationships is probably of greater economic value now, ironically at a time when cynicism and skepticism about marketers’ claims is at all-time high.”

Trust: Action or Feeling?

Can I trust you?

If trust is so important to have in your business, why doesn’t everyone have it? Just exactly what is “trust” in my business? Is trust the feeling I have about a business, or the actions the people in it express?

You can’t put trust in a box and wrap it with a pretty bow. “Trust doesn’t just happen; it arises from the way people choose to interact. Trust in complex organizations should not be left to chance. It helps to follow certain practices to maintain and grow trust.”

“Trust is created – or destroyed – by our actions. The simplest and most important of these is our ability to keep the promises we make.”

Ask yourself the following questions about a business you buy from:

  • Do you keep your word to me?
  • Do you care about my needs being met?
  • Do you solve conflicts in a positive manner?
  • Do you maintain a consistent style of communication?
  • Do you make yourself available to me?
  • Do you believe in what you are doing and saying?
  • Do you express appreciation to me?
  • Do you relate to my problems and needs?
  • Do you respect your own employees?

These are just a few questions to ask yourself, if you were your own customer. The ultimate question of course is this; Would you want to buy from you?

Benefits of Trust

If you build a bridge of solid trust, you can bring just about anything you want across to the other side. Trust is the platform to carry your goods, not the other way around. Trust is the solid transportation vehicle for efficiency and long-term success. “The principle is this: all your potential customers-the people most likely to invest in your services or products-all have advisors that they trust. These Trusted Advisors are professionals that not only do their job well, but take a pro-active role in identifying ways to increase clients’ profits”

“Generally, these Trusted Advisors have created such a reputation for recommending profitable change that their clients no longer question their recommendations. Now imagine what it would be like if you had a team of these Trusted Advisors recommending your services and products to their customers-customers who have a genuine need for them!”

What are some of the primary benefits to establishing trust in your busienss?  You could–

  • Shorten your Sales Cycle
  • Increase your Closing Ratio
  • Maintain your Customer Base

How many times have you spoken to a person only because your friend asked you do so? I bet a lot. Now think of having a group of people working for you and your products or services in the same way. This type of product promotion is priceless.

Putting it all together!

“Warren Bennis claims trust is one of six basic elements of leadership. “Integrity is the basis of trust, which is not so much an ingredient of leadership as it is a product,” he says. “It is the one quality that cannot be acquired, but must be earned. It is given by co-workers and followers, and without it, the leader can’t function.”

Looking to 2011

If you have decided after reading this article trust is a product you have to prioritize in your business for the coming year, then consider this; No one will ever trust you if you don’t trust yourself first.

“Trust is the foundation upon which relationships in every setting are built. It is the emotional glue that holds leaders and followers together. The moment trust is gone, everything begins to fall apart.”

The “Us” in Trust, begins with You.

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC, is a Certified Professional Coach, Speaker, Award Winning Author ofThe Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue – turning your upside down world right side up!” (Amazon), and host of the “Best People We Know!” Radio Show on Blog Talk Radio. Deb can help you be your best in life and business, visit http://www.greenskyandbluegrass.com today.

Build a Bridge of Trust Today

Self Improvement – How to make Change Permanent

Do you want to be your best?

Oh yea!

In a recent poll most people agreed being your best is a top priority. The real question appeared to be, “How do I make the necessary changes to achieve my very best?”

It may be easier for you to make changes in your behavior, if you understand how your brain changes when you perform a new task.   

Your Brain is Alive

“ The changes that occur in the brain when learning or performing something new can be explained by neuroplasticity or brain plasticity.”

Study Your Mind

“In the late 1960s and early 1970s, neuroscientists started making unexpected discoveries about the previously considered unchanging brain. They found that the brain can change its function and structure when it performed different activities — it “perfected” its neurological circuits until it was better able to handle the task at hand. Neuroscientists started calling this fundamental brain property, “brain plasticity” or “neuroplasticity.”   

Break Bad Habits

Now you can have hope to break bad habits permanently and with the success you desire to live the happy life you deserve!   

Repeated actions of the new behavior, and subsequently the good feelings associated with them, will become rooted in the fabric of who you are with each action you implement.  Learning and practicing will actually “change” your brain function, transforming bad habits into good.

Rewiring Your Brain for Change

Focusing on setting yourself up for success is imperative.  You must “successfully sabotage” yourself to guarantee you will do the actions required to rewire your brain.    

Norman Doidge, MD, a psychiatrist and researcher, has investigated neuroplasticity in detail.  His case histories detailastonishing progress of people whose conditions had long been dismissed as hopeless. We see a woman born with half a brain that rewired itself to work as a whole, a woman labeled retarded who cured her deficits with brain exercises, learning disorders cured, IQs raised, aging brains rejuvenated, and entrenched depression and anxiety disappearing.”   

Premeditated Success

The key to unlock the door into your new best life rests in your dedication to repeat the new behavior with enthusiastic tenacity.  Setting yourself up with a premeditated plan to execute the new behavior, even when you don’t feel like doing it, is a powerful tool you can use.   

Start Now!

Here are 3 Do’s for You

D efine 
What is it you want to achieve?  What bad habit do you want to eliminate?  What new feeling do you want to experience?   

D ream
Visualize your new life experiencing your new feelings and behavior.  What does it look like?  Who are you with?  What are you doing?  Where are you doing it?  What is your impact on others?  How do you feel?    

D ecide
Now that you have defined the new behavior and feeling changes you want to enjoy, and the experience you have visualized these new changes will produce, you need to decide to accept them.  You need to embrace your new reality.  You must decide to set yourself up for success with a fail-safe action plan that is result oriented.  Practice “successful sabotage.”  

Don’t let your happiness come from other peoples mind.  Tranform the structure of your brain to function at its very best.  Begin now.  You’re worth the effort!

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Finding Your Way to Happiness

Happy Mind Vitamins 4 You!

What are you feeding your mind today?  Did you take your happy mind vitamins yet?  Remember, you are what you eat!

Take your Happiness Mind Vitamins Now

Take Hold of Happiness

Research shows your mind does not distinguish between the reality of a situation you experience, and the visualizing of an experience you create. Your mind considers both events as real, and therefore ignites the cascade of response accordingly. First, your thoughts, then your feelings created by the thoughts, and then a behavior as a consequence of the thoughts and feelings.
If this is true, then you should be able to increase your good feelings at a mathematical rate proportional to the good thoughts you input into your mind.

Thoughts -> Feelings -> Actions

Good News For You
Let’s take this principal one step further, and consider the opportunity to “rewrite” the script in your mind.
Perhaps you get a consistent bad feeling every time you pay your bills on line . It feels nearly impossible for you to create a good feeling from a bad feeling producing behavior – paying your bills (who really enjoys paying their bills?). This may be true for you.

ReWrite Your Brain

Did you know you can insert a good thought, which produces a good feeling into the displeasure action, which can help overwrite the feeling you experience from that displeasure task? You can!

Make Yourself Smile Now

For example, you could play a positive blog talk radio interview in the background on your computer, while you are paying those bills. Listening to the happy mind vitamins from the radio show, while you are doing the negative task at hand, offers your mind the opportunity to focus on the new information you are feeding it to process. I like to call this effort, “successful sabotage” because you are deliberately sabotaging yourself for success.

The Mind is a Terrible Thing to Waste

Your mind is capable of numerous tasks simultaneously. Just because you haven’t experienced success in changing your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors to date, doesn’t mean your mind can’t achieve the goal with tremendous success. Don’t believe me?
Click Here to listen to my recent interview get-happy with People Coach, Elizabeth Lengyel. It’s free! Download and recycle the happy mind vitamins again and again, as needed. The positive results are limitless!

Stand next to manure and smell like manure.

Stand next to perfume, and smell fragrant too.

Be careful what and who you surround yourself with, because without any effort from you, the effect automatically rubs off onto YOU. Surrounding yourself with positive affirmations, knowledge, and ideas, will faithfully generate the same.

Free Mind Vitamins

I love utilizing blog talk radio as one of my happy mind vitamins tools in my armamentarium of building a solid happy life. Real life resources are available on demand, twenty four hours a day, seven days a week at no charge! How great is that?! The only cost to you and me, is the time it takes to set your reminder, or follow a show Viola!
I created, “The Best People We Know Radio Show!” to fill a need for happy mind vitamins. I am passionate about offering you a steady source of solutions to problems. Antibiotics against diseases of the mind. Committed to helping YOU be the best person you were created to be! Many BTR hosts are dedicated to the same, and I encourage you to investigate each one for your own happiness therapy.
You CAN take mind vitamins which help you get from; hopeless to hopeful; good to great; average to extraordinary. The choice is yours. Don’t miss the opportunity to be happy. You’re worth the effort!

I Have the Power to Decide

Deb Scott is a Certified Professional Coach, and author of the award winning book; “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue-turning your upside down world right side up!”
You can enjoy the benefits of having Deb as your Personal Empowerment Results Coach via Discover the Amazing YOU! Coaching, following Deb’s “Best People We Know Radio Show,” and ordering her book “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue” today, on Amazon.

Distorted Thinking Styles: Do You Wear One of These?

Your passion for fashion may be an attractive attribute in creating your personal style, but distorted thinking is a trend which needs to end now.
Do you suffer from distorted thinking?
What are the effects it is having on you?
Most important, how do you get rid of it if you have it?
 

Is Your View of You Distorted?

The conversations you have in your head are the most important meetings you will ever attend. Everything you say to yourself on the inside, is what you eventually express and manifest on the outside.
If you attract who you are, you must be very careful about what thoughts you allow to remain in your mind. Kill them before they have time to take root to grow a negative behavior.  Early diagnosis always accompanies a more positive prognosis.
Do you ever hear yourself saying something like:
  • “If my husband really cared about my happiness, he would take on more responsibility with the house and kids.”
  • “I feel like such a failure, I’ll never achieve my dream.”
  • “If I didn’t grow up in such a dysfunctional family, I wouldn’t be depressed.”
Good News! You are not alone if any of these examples sound vaguely familiar.  Little nasty voices of self-talk in your head, can be replaced.  You have the power!   
 
 
 

Self-Talk can be Transformed

You are only as sick as your secrets, so being aware this conversation exists, is the first step towards getting rid of it.
“The authors of the Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook note that this type of thinking is characterized by ‘repetitive and intrusive thoughts that are unrealistic, unproductive, and often anxiety producing.”
You may have had a belief system which functioned to keep you safe in “survival mode” when you were younger, but this formula is not a winning equation towards healthy living in your adulthood. In fact, it is destroying and blocking you from claiming your hearts desires! Get rid of it!

I Can Do This!

You need to be programmed positive in the present. Accept and understand the negative programming you got in the past, which you need to remove today, is not your fault you caught.  Reinforce by your family situations or societal expectations, you can rise above your problem thinking.
What are the effects of these negative thoughts? Self-doubt, fears, or even phobias. None of these are good, and this is just the short list!
OK – you don’t want to feel this negativity, which means you have to get rid of the thoughts which create them, so your behavior can change for the better.
The Fabulous Four Cure for Distorted Thinking:
1. Identify the negative emotion you are feeling
2. Identify the situation which triggered this emotion
3. Identify the distorted thought
4. Create the opposite emotion in the same situation with a kind thought.
3 I’s (Identify) + 1 C (Create) = The New Amazing Happy Me!

Happiness Island, Peace Beach, Serenity Sand

Let’s take one of the examples provided, and apply this cure for distorted thinking.  This will help you begin the transformation in becoming the magnificent happy person you were created to be.
“If I didn’t grow up in such a dysfunctional family, I wouldn’t be depressed.”
1. I am feeling angry, resentful, tense and stressed.
2. My daughter/son just told me I was a terrible mother/father because I wouldn’t let him/her stay out past midnight.
3. Because my child told me I was a terrible parent in that specific situation, I feel like my entire life of being a parent is a failure, which makes me feel even more depressed. This feeling reinforces the belief I have no hope of change because this feeling comes from my horrible childhood, which I can never go back to the past to make better.
4. There are many people who have had worse pasts than me, who are happy productive people today, living in healthy relationship with their families. I can be happier today because these past experiences have given me more compassion, better discernment, and deeper experience to make better choices in the present. These better choices I make, give me power to create the life I want. I am no longer a victim to other peoples behavior!
Practice this process with events and emotions which are easy to identify.  Like anything else, when repeated with practice, the more easy the process will become to apply in more complex situations.

Your New Theme Song!

Surround yourself in transformation. Associate with people who are seeking to accomplish the same change as you, and you will experience your positive results more quickly and efficiently.
Positive energy is a fragrance worth wearing everyday, for any and all occasions in your life.
No thought is ever final, no feeling an absolute fact. It’s all a process.
Your personal passion for positive fashion, never felt so fun! 
 
 

Because You're Worth It!

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Detox Your Mind!

Detox Your Mind – Why and How Now

You may have heard of Recovery Rehabilitation Centers to detoxify your body from addictive drugs, or Medical Centers which provide everything from colon to kidney cleanses for your body, but have you considered the possibility of priceless benefits by detoxifying your mind of negative thoughts?Yes! It’s possible for you to do! Read on how…

Your Mind is Alive!

Negative thoughts are alive. You may not be able to touch them in a boxed package, but each one generates an electrical impulse which develops an imprint in your mind which produces an emotion. These emotions either make you feel happy, or unhappy. It’s a simple as that.

You many not be able to control when negative thoughts enter your brain, but you absolutely have the power to open the door and invite them in to stay, or shut the door and tell them good riddance goodbye.

Like any illness, when diagnosed early, recovery of a good prognosis statistically increases. The same is true for you to feel better. Dump the junk of negative thoughts as soon as they sweep your mind, and block the negative feelings that come with them. How?

Take Positive Mind Vitamins Daily

The most effective way to get rid of a negative thought is to acknowledge it exists.Face it head on. It may seem upside down and un-natural that in order to remove the thought, you must literally embrace it, but nothing could be more right side up true!

You’re only as sick as your secrets, and bringing the thought into the light of awareness is like taking a vicious vampire into the power of the sun,
automatically burns the evil away in the brightness of the day.

Dr. Carolyn Leaf has done extensive scientific research on the physical changes toxic thoughts create in your body. “The chemicals that accompany those toxic thoughts course through your body in a myriad of toxic chain reactions. These toxic thoughts can even look distorted compared to healthy thoughts – chemicals released can change the shape and even destroy part of the neurons, causing change right down to the cellular level.” Imagine that, right down to your cellar level!

->Thoughts -> <-Feelings -> <-Behavior<-

The most effective way to detoxify your mind is to embrace your negative thought,
and let it go as fast as you can.

Remember, your feelings aren’t facts, so be sure to challenge each one. Critique how much power you give each thought. Is it a truth, illusion, or just a habit you have formed based on prior experiences?

Replace and transform old norms with
new dreams you seek to achieve.

Surround yourself in positive transformation tools. Seek out the people, places, and things which help you grow a strong healthy mind, able to withstand the storms of negative winds.

Take your positive mind vitamins daily. Detoxify your thoughts and cleanse the fear. Dare to Discover the Amazing Happy YOU!

Deb Scott, BA, CPC  is Author of the THREE TIME Award Winning Motivational Book How to Be Happy: Simple Steps to Stop Suffering Now.

“The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue – turning your upside down world right side up!”
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