How to Create a Wow Life

If you’re like me, you probably want a wow life, and you want it yesterday. Consider the idea you’re wow is only in the now, and living the life you love, demands you love the skin you’re already in.

“I’ll be happy when I have —–“; I’ll be less stressed when —- changes —–“; or “I’ll take a vacation when —— is finally finished.” Do any of these sound vaguely familiar to you?

Expectations can often be pre-mediated resentments. Change your expectations, shift your gratitude meter, and alter your level of peace and emotional happiness.

The child who survives on drinking dirty water on a daily basis thinks pure joy is having clean running water in his/her home. The abused wife who battles bruising beatings every week dreams of meeting a man who would never communicate with his fist. The husband and wife who just lost their only child to cancer look at every couple with the chaotic craziness of five kids as having it all. Do you see what I mean?

The next question is obvious; how can you make your now your wow?

In the same way you need breaks for your car; you need reliable breaks for your stinking thinking mind at moments as well. You need to have sure stoppers ready and available to halt your mind to steer clear of the catastrophe to give up the hope of a better past. Idealizing a future which may never exist is only going to borrow sorrow from tomorrow.

Create some breaks. Write down your greatest fear on a piece of paper. Underneath it, write down someone who has experienced that fear and overcome it successfully. Finally, draw an image, symbol, or paste a photo of how you feel when the fear is overcome with a positive result. Use this picture as a trigger to turn your mind around into the wow of now.

For example; if you fear losing your job – write that down. Then – write down someone who got fired and ended up with an even better job in life because of being fired. Say, Walt Disney. Then, create your emotional image, perhaps a person smiling at the top of a mountain which reminds you to keep going no matter what obstacle you meet along the way to remember you’re not finished yet.

My point is this; to embrace your wow in the now, you must let go of that confusing mind chatter to buy the lie that something more is required to feel the happiness you seek in this very moment. Walls are made of wasteful wallowing, and smiles are made with the multitude of miracles moving in this very moment.

 

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC  is a four-time award winning author of “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue,”  and a top rated Best Podcaster winner of “The Best People We Know Show” with over 1 million global listeners.  Deb spent twenty years as a cardiovascular surgical specialist, winning numerous awards for outstanding sales and leadership skills.  In her personal life, Deb battled sexual abuse, others’ alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, depression, was the sole caregiver to both her parents who fought cancer to their death, and even experienced financial devastation.  Today, Deb helps people turn things around in their business, or the business of living, with the discovery of the amazing you – See more at: http://www.greenskyandbluegrass.com

To Solve a Problem Do This

I don’t worry when I get up in the morning and everything looks blurry because I easily grab my reading glasses and suddenly the world is available to me in a crisp new way. In the same manner, when you feel frustrated, confused or discouraged, you can grab your God glasses and quickly transform what appears bad into something uniquely beautiful specifically wrapped as a custom gift created just for you.

God glasses are available in locations which supply God glasses. You can’t go to the hardware store bread, and you can’t find God glasses just anywhere. You must have the intention to get yourself a pair of God glasses, and then take action to purchase to wear.

I am going to tell you a secret.

God glasses are globally abundant in the most surprising places, and often overlooked by counterfeit products with less than satisfactory results. You have to check the label to make sure your pair is the high quality original name brand. I would suggest you find someone who has the genuine article, who experiences consistent results as promised, and purchase a pair from their same source.

My point is this; if you want to be free of frustration and those demons of doubt, you must be aware not every book, person or theory which claims success truly delivers it. Many self-help gurus claim they have the answer, and at the same time live a contradictory lie. Many shiny websites and fancy marketing campaigns hook you with a glittery veneer and empty contents.

What happens when you buy the lie? You don’t get the promised results. What happens then? You feel like YOU did something wrong because their system didn’t work for you and you subsequently feel even more frustrated, disappointed and discouraged than you did before. Consider the notion there is nothing wrong with you, and there is something wrong with them! You discovered a fraud, and that is not your fault.

I am challenging you to a new way of thinking.

 

Ask more questions, investigate third parties, be cautiously optimistic and believe you are far too precious to spend any amount of time in your life with people, places or things that do not meet standards of authenticity. Bad seeds will never grow a good harvest.

So next time you search for answers to solve a problem in your life, take a moment to pause, grab your God glasses, and know you’re worth the effort.

 

 

 

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC  is a four-time award winning author of “The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue,”  and a top rated radio host of “The Best People We Know Show” which was a third place finalist in the 2012 Shorty Awards for best podcaster.  Deb spent twenty years as a cardiovascular surgical specialist, winning numerous awards for outstanding sales and leadership skills.  In her personal life, Deb battled sexual abuse, others’ alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, was the sole caregiver to both her parents who fought cancer to their death, and even experienced financial devastation.  Today, Deb helps people turn things around in their business, or the business of living, with the discovery of the amazing you.

Why the Law of Attraction might not Be Working for You

I am the first one to agree your thoughts create your feelings, which then creates your actions, which subsequently builds the reality of your life. To that end, your thoughts can and do create your world.

But what happens when the law of attraction doesn’t seem to be working for you? What happens when you feel like you are doing all the right things, but you end up with all the wrong results. What then?

It deeply saddens me to see anyone beat themselves up for supposedly doing the ‘law of attraction’ wrong. Precisely when the person feels most down about a circumstance in life, the bulldozer of despair dumps a double dose of self-incriminating negativity.

“Why isn’t the law of attraction working for ME?”

Consider you are not doing anything wrong at all. Consider the equation is wrong. 2+ 3 will never equal 4, no matter how much you visualize and wish it to be true.

Could it be where the law of attraction ends where a little common sense needs to begin?

Would you think for one moment Rosa Parks needed to contemplate what the universe was trying to teach her to accept as she walked to the back of the bus because she was black, day in and day out, every day of her life? Would you for one second think that a Jewish victim at Auschwitz needed to contemplate what he/she was doing to attract being rolled into the incinerator to be burned alive? Do really believe the victims who had their limbs blown off in the Boston Marathon Bombing subconsciously put out a frequency with THAT on their Law of Attraction menu? Of course not!

The missing ingredient is thisgood and evil exists, and each person has free will to bring one or the other into the physical world we each live within. Good produces more good, and bad produces more bad. We are each planting seeds first in the garden of our own life, which then scatters more of the same into the lives of others around us.

Each thing in and of itself may not be good, but together they can produce good.

I recently discussed this notion with Cheryl Maloney on Empower Radio (click here to listen). Consider the thought of eating tablespoons of salt, a cup of sugar or raw eggs individually. Pucker up! It does not sound very good to me! Why? Because on their own it’s not. But, stir them all together with some flour, put the mixture in the oven, and viola’, you have angel food cake. Angel food cake is very good.

My point is this, certain things on their own are not always good, and never will be good. No amount of visualization is going to change that. What you can change is to see beyond the individual bad event, and extrapolate the present bad into the potential good result once it is wrapped with a new element of thought, action, belief, event, person, place or thing.

Life is not the all about “me” show, it’s the all about “we” show.

Consider your unfair boss is not the universe or God telling you to reflect and work through a possible childhood issue with an authority figure. Consider your boss needs to learn a lesson to be a fair boss, and you need to step out in courage to bring this to light, and in doing so you will have saved hundreds of other workers unjust treatment.

When the “I” becomes a “we” focus, even illness is transformed into wellness.

So next time you want to beat yourself up for not doing the law of attraction correctly to grab hold of the perfect life you have visualized in your on demand dream board, consider this: You didn’t do anything wrong. In fact, you may be doing something very right.

 

 

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC   is a four-time award winning author of The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue,” and a top rated radio host of The Best People We Know Show” which was a third place finalist in the 2012 Shorty Awards for best podcaster. Deb spent twenty years as a cardiovascular surgical specialist, winning numerous awards for outstanding sales and leadership skills. In her personal life, Deb has battled sexual abuse, others’ alcoholism, dysfunctional relationships, was the sole caregiver to both her parents who fought cancer to their death, and even experienced financial devastation. Today, Deb helps people turn things around in their business, or the business of living, with the discovery of the amazing you.

 

Best 7 Steps to Live a Happy Life Right Now

I sometimes feel we rush through life grasping to capture future happiness in exchange for the good life we already own. We chase what might or might not be for what already is. Could it be we are dying to live that beautiful life?

I recently had a hospice medical doctor on the radio show who challenges each of us to consider the possibility many of our most “noble” desires to attain success are surreptitiously leading us right over the cliff to death.

Karen Wyatt, MD researched this notion by collecting a review of her many patients on deaths door, asking them what lessons mattered to them the most. In retrospect, what did they wish they had done or not done to live an everyday existence overflowing with peace, joy and personal fulfillment? These real life experiences were threaded together by these seven rules and how to accomplish each on a daily basis:

1. Suffering – embrace your difficulties.
2. Love – let your heart be broken.
3. Forgiveness – hold no resentments.
4. Paradise – dwell in the present moment.
5. Purpose – manifest your highest potential.
6. Surrender – let go of expectations.
7. Impermanence – face your fear.

So are you dying to live your beautiful life? Are you buying the lies of counterfeit happiness in exchange for the genuine gifts you have yet to unwrap? Is the value of your precious life worth considering a change in values and/or priorities?

Listen to the entire interview now Click Here.

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC

Deb is Author of the National Four time Award Winner in: Self-Help | Motivation | Best New Non-Fiction | Self-Improvement; The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue - , and a featured host of the popular Best People We Know Show! on Blog Talk Radio, with over 750K global listeners, over 300 shows, and top rated in 18 categories.

Deb is a 3rd place finalist in the prestigious Shorty Awards for best podcaster.

Taking complex issues and making them easy to understand. Simple Steps to Stop Suffering Now! Now available on Kindle.

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Best People: Is this You?

It’s been a lot of fun to see the #BestPeople hashtag get so much attention on twitter.

The hashtag was created from The Best People We Know Radio Show, which we are blessed to have over 750K Global listeners now going into our third year.

But what does it mean to earn the #BestPeople seal of approval?

Best People aren’t just anybody; they are above average in every respect. When I reflected on the character traits of those I have come to admire in this elite group of amazing human beings, I came up with the following top five traits you can always trust a Best People to Know person will absolutely possess.

Best People:

1. These souls have integrity and walk their talk with action not just word.
2. They help each other unselfishly beyond expectations without an agenda.
3. They have a great sense of humor and always look at the bright side of life.
4. They encourage, inspire and share their wisdom with style and grace.
5. They love to connect Best People to other Best People.

Are you one of the Best People to Know? You can find us sprinkled around the globe on every social media outlet available. If you know a Best People or your are one yourself, be sure to tag us and introduce yourself with the hashtag #BestPeople.

And thank you to all the Best People who have been kind beyond measure to support the Best People We Know Radio Show in the prestigious Shorty Awards.

Have you voted yet? If not there’s still time! Just copy/past/tweet from your own twitter account:

I nominate @GreenSkyDeb in the Shorty Award in #Podcaster because the world needs more #Best People!

Lots of Blessings with Love Sprinkles and keep Sharing Your Shine,
Deb

The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue

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Do you want to be happy? Of course! We all want to be peaceful, purposeful, and experience authentic, lasting joy. The Sky is Green and the Grass is Blue, offers fresh, fun, and surprising ways to live in lasting happiness. All ages will enjoy learning how to transform ANYTHING bad into a diamond you LOVE.

Ready to receive a powerful, and effective mind vitamin to be happy? These pages were written for you! Whether you’re a creative spirit or a businessperson, “The Sky is Green” offers insights into happiness from which all can benefit.

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Deb Scott has provided a fresh perspective to an well-plowed field: empowerment. With wit, humor and extremely well-chosen quotes, she takes the reader through the tools needed to take control of their own life and find joy in doing so. -Sandy Weaver; Radio & Television PersonalitySomething unique and innovative that sets a new standard. -Dr. Alex Concorde


Think you tried everything? You didn’t try this!

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This book is a practical, easy to read guide for those who are ready to turn things around in their life, and especially for those who feel they have already tried everything to achieve this goal. Young and old will find these fresh ideas an effective antibiotic to the disease of unhappiness, and a powerful preventative medicine against getting stuck in unproductive thinking or energy depleting relationships with self and others.

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A high honors Biology major in college, Deb became an award winning Cardiovascular Sales Specialist for twenty years. Deb has worked with and been in surgery with some of the best Cardiac Surgeons in the world. Deb helps people transform their lives by combining her unique practical business and leadership experience as a successful professional, with her passion to help people be the best person they were created to be. Deb has overcome sexual abuse, other’s alcoholism, family dysfunction, been the sole care giver for each of her parents until their passing of cancer, and even encountered financial devastation. Deb understands pain, suffering and is no stranger to even death. Regardless of how hopeless or frustrated you may feel about your situation, Deb can help you find the gifts and good in any circumstance, to know without a doubt the best is yet to come.

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Best of the Best – Top 30 List

Taking time to reflect on my blessings is one way I can always humble myself to be grateful.

I have found through my share of painful trials and tribulations in the human skin suit experience, gratitude is the most powerful antibiotic against jealousy, depression or any other of a large variety of spiritual sucking unhappiness vampire vices which steal the joy and peace out of a loving human life.

The Best People We Know Radio Show on Blog Talk Radio,
which began with a handful of listeners in September 2010
as a personal dream and vision to “Make a Positive Difference” in the world,  has now surpassed Half-A-Million 500K global listeners,
ranking in the top 1-2% in 18 categories including:
Self-Help | Life | Writing | Books | Family | Moms | Women |
Spirituality | Fitness | Health | Travel | Goals |Entertainment |
Current Events | Social Media | Psychology | Marketing | Business

Nothing short of amazing, this success belongs to each of you who listen and support and share the show week in and week out, month after month, with your family and friends, on twitter, facebook, linkedin and so many more.  Your presence is a testimony that being authentic, digging deep into the business of living, and searching for creative means to be the best person each of us is created to be, is alive and kicking, connecting the hearts and souls of so many worldwide.

While each show is always a gift and a hit in my personal view, these Top 30 shows have been the most popular for 2012 with each of you.  Tips, tools, inspiration and motivation to help you be your very best.

Top 30 Best People We Know Radio Show

The 30 Most Popular Shows for 2012:

Immaculee’ Ilbegezia
Surviving the Rwanda Genocide – Left to Tell – A True Story of Hope & Forgiveness

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/12/05/immacule-ilibagiza-the-rwanda-genocide–left-to-tell

 

 

Paulette Ensign
How to Turn Your Tips into Profitable Products

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/12/13/paulette-ensign-turn-your-tips-into-profitable-products

Dr. Joseph Burgo
Why Do I Do That? Going into your Subconscience Mind

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/12/10/dr-joesph-burgo-why-do-i-do-that

 

 

 

Deborah Norville
Beyond the Screen – Up Close & Personal

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/11/02/deborah-norville

 

 

 

Kit Johnson
Dodging Suicide – Dealing with Being BiPolar

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/11/27/kit-johnson-dodging-suicide–being-bipolar

Lorna Byrne
A Message of Hope from the Angels

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/11/07/lorna-byrne-a-message-of-hope-from-the-angels

 

 

 

Susan Miner
Self – Love, Beauty & the Confident Woman

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/11/01/susan-miner-self-love-beauty-the-confident-woman

 

 

 

Anastasia Montejano
Finding & Creating Your Dream Job

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/10/25/anastasia-montejano–create-your-dream-job

Lin Klaassen
Face Reading – What They are Saying Without Words

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/10/30/lin-klaassen-face-reading-what-they-say-without-words

Sharon McRill
How to Start a Business from Scratch

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/10/23/sharon-mcrill-how-to-start-a-business-from-scratch

 

 

 

Dr. Lisa Cassileth & Lisa Jay Davis
New Breast Cancer Genetic Testing & Treatment

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/10/18/dr-lisa-cassileth-lisa-jey-davis-new-breast-cancer-news

 

 

 

Dr. Jennifer Taitz
How to End Emotional Eating

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/10/12/dr-jennifer-taitz-end-emotional-eating

 

 

 

Lori Campbel
Age Potential – Be Your Best as You Age

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/10/15/lori-campbel-loving-your-life-at-every-age–agepotential

Elise Ballard
Epiphany – True Stories of Sudden Change

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/10/11/elise-ballard-epiphany–true-stories-of-sudden-change

 

 

 

George Lewis
Spiritual but not Religious TV

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/09/26/george-lewis-spiritual-but-not-religious-tv–sbn

Teresa de Grosbois
How to Be a Best Selling Author

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/09/20/teresa-de-grosbois-how-to-be-a-best-selling-author

Ken Kragen
Producer/Director – We Are the World – The 12 Dogs of Christmas Family Movie

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/10/10/ken-kragen-the-12-dogs-of-christmas–new-family-movie

Amy Ohm
The Treatment Diaries – Health Answers & Support

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/09/18/amy-ohm-health-answers-support-the-treatment-diaries

 

 

 

Pearce Quensberry
Stand Up 2 Cancer – 15 Year Old Survivor

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/09/05/pearce-quensberry-15-year-old-cancer-survivor-shares

Michelle Rosenthal
How to Overcome PTSD Post Traumatic Stress

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/08/02/michelle-rosenthalhow-to-overcome-trauma

Wayne Scot Lukas
Celebrity Stylist – The Secret Ingrediant for Beauty Inside & Out

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/08/05/wayne-scot-lukas-celebrity-stylist–the-secret-ingrediant

Marni Spencer Devlin
Why Anything is Possible to Overcome – True Story

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/07/19/marni-spencer-devlin-why-anything-is-possbile–true-story

 

 

 

Wendy Joy
Awakening into Your Life

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/07/12/wendy-joy-awakening

Tony Denison
Actor – The Closer & Major Crimes

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/06/18/tony-denison-blue-collar-values-in-a-gold-collar-career

 

 

 

Dr. Carrie Louise Daennell
Healing the Aging Metabolism

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/06/12/dr-carrie-louise-daenell-healing-the-aging-metabolism

Karen Cote
Marketing for Romance Writers

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/05/08/karen-cote-romance–its-complicated

Eleesha
The Soul Whisperer

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/01/05/eleesha-the-soul-whisperer-finding-your-purpose-power

Jeremy McDonald
Spiritual Strength to Clear the Fear

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/04/19/jeremy-mcdonald-how-to-overcome-fear

 

 

 

Robin Sullivan
Get Your Book Published

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/02/14/robin-sullivan-get-your-book-published

 

 

 

Call in Coaching
With CPC Elizabeth & Deb

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebestpeopleweknow/2012/04/30/call-in-coaching-with-cpcs-deb-elizabeth

 

 

 

For a complete list of all 250+ shows visit The Best People We Know Show on iTunes.

Do you have a topic or idea you want us to cover in a show?  We would love to hear from you – please take a moment to comment below And stay tuned for exciting new plans to expand and serve more value, new content and fresh ideas in the coming year.

Thank you for being part of The Best People We Know family, and don’t forget to share your one-of-a-kind shine in each and every way which inspires your heart to come alive. Go, be love, the world needs you.

Special thanks to the creator and pioneer of Blog Talk Radio, Alan Levy, and his committed staff of enthusiastic professionals, Amy, Shannon and John, for making this show possible.

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC, is a Certified Professional Coach, Top Rated Radio Host of The Best People We Know Radio Show with over half a million listeners, and a four time Award Winning Author for the best in Self-Help, Self-Improvement, Motivation & New Non-Fiction for: The Sky is Green & The Grass is Blue.
Deb specializes in helping people turn things around, whether it’s in business, or in the business of living.
Her unique combination of twenty years as a consistent sales professional & leadership award winner as a Cardiac Surgery Sales Specialist, combined with her personal experience of facing & healing from sexual abuse, dysfunctional relationships, others’ alcoholism, being a sole care giver to the death for both her parents, and even financial tragedy, offers individuals a unique opportunity to learn new ways of thinking, doing and being in the face of life’s most painful obstacles.
Discover how to bring good out of the bad, keep hope alive, and know your best life is yet to come.

 

 

5 Lessons I Learned from having Breast Cancer

Guest blog post from the Sunshine Survivor:  Annie Mattil Coyne

Annie with daughter Kelsey during Chemotherapy Treatments

One-It is what it is.
Whether the Doctor tells you that you have 6 months to live or they tell you that with surgeries, radiation, chemotherapy, you have a chance to survive. It is ultimately your choice how you deal with it. You can make it the most miserable time of your life or you can embrace the awareness of how precious life really is. I personally chose the high road. My statistics were not great with stage 3 breast cancer. I had a nine month old daughter and I made the decision to fight this in the most positive way I could. I took time for me, to learn how my body dealt with stress, and worked really hard to teach my body and mind to connect in a positive way. Two mastectomies, chemotherapy,radiation, and lots of inner therapy work, fourteen years later I am cancer free today. Hard work pays off.

Two- People have different reactions to illness.
Some of the most loving friends I have, were not really present during my treatments. While others were there with me through it all. I learned that for some people it is to painful for them to see someone they care about struggling through illness. It is not because they do not care, I think sometimes they distance themselves to protect themselves in case something happens, the pain won’t be so bad. They really don’t know what to do. Just being there for the person is what you need to do…just let them know you are there.

Three-When you are a survivor, from anything, your life is never the same again.
It changes you as a person. There are people who will go back to their old life and act like nothing happened…but it is always there. I felt renewed, reborn, blessed. I felt like I was here for a purpose. I found that purpose opening my own hair salon and specializing in selling wigs to cancer patients. I opened my salon one year to the date of my diagnosis. I meet people in their first stages of their journey.I encourage them to be positive and to stay strong and to take charge of their illness. I share my story. No matter how bad your situation, I believe everyone has a purpose. Sometimes you don’t even know you’re purpose. I have a good friend who has been chasing hers, and recently I told her that she has written a book of her life experiences, she has a talk blog radio station connecting great people, I believe she is present in her purpose.She just didn’t know it.

Four- Society is so hung up on body image.
I had reconstruction with my mastectomies, but I never added anything to the breast tissue, so I just have scars. I never realized how much our society focuses on breast until you don’t have them. I have had moments where I have really felt the loss. I tried to explain to my husband when we were on vacation and the resort allowed women to go topless that I felt like it was like bringing someone without legs to a road race. I know that sounds shallow but I really felt the emotional pain. A body part is a body part. I do not dwell on it and I admire women that choose no reconstruction at all.

Five- Society does not like to talk about death.
Let’s face it, we are all going to die sometime. But none one wants to mention it. I have lost a few friends from cancer and when they found out that there was not much more the medical world could do, they wanted to talk about it. A few of them came to me. They said they could not discuss it with their families because they didn’t want to talk about it saying “you will be fine” when in reality they weren’t going to be fine. Or they thought they were giving up. One of my friends was concerned about his funeral…where to have it..what would the music be and so on. To this day I think he had the nicest funeral I have ever been to. He planned the whole thing out. Dedicated songs to certain people, Invited people to share stories..a real celebration of his life. Sometimes just having everything planned also takes a lot of stress off of the family. We as a society should really be able to handle this much better. After all we are always taught we are going to a better place..right?

Annie Mattil Coyne

Well that’s a few of my thoughts.
I am working on a book..from diagnosis through treatment.
The book is called Sunshine Survivor.
The name of my salon is Positive Energy Salon & Boutique in
Exeter, New Hampshire.
I do believe cancer has led me to my calling!

Annie

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Stop Negative Thinking: You vs Your Thoughts

I feel better just reading the blog post headline! Don’t you?

What Are You Thinking?

How to get rid of feeling negative, stressed out, or emotionally charged is a desirable result for most of us, but not necessarily easily achieved by any of us.

Here is a simple “Ah Ha” moment to help shift your perception of how easily it really can be to accomplish.

You are NOT your thoughts.

Why is accepting this knowledge a critical first step towards freedom and success?

Once you know your thoughts, which create the feeling, are separate from the truth of who you are, you are able to make a choice whether that thought will be permitted to create a feeling inside you – negative or positive. Why?

Consider the following image and analogy:

When you are at home, people often come and knock on your door. You pause, look at who it is, and decide if you are going to let them into your home. Your home is your safe and sacred sanctuary and you don’t just let anyone in.  You may speak to them at the door if they are a stranger, or immediately invite them in if you recognize them as loving family or friends.

Now, replace you as the house itself, thoughts are the strangers or friends knocking at your door, and your decision to open or close the door is the power of choice you possess as a result of pausing to assess the quality of thoughts knocking at your door. The thoughts knocking outside your front door are not part of you in the house, but separate entities outside your home. Thoughts knocking for your permission to come inside and be part of your home require your approval and permission to enter.

How does that scenario feel to you?

Your thoughts are what create your feelings – negative or positive. Without the thought first, the feeling can not exist. This knowledge gives you power to understand by pausing and analyzing what the thought is, or what is knocking at your door, before accepting it. This is the real key to controlling how you feel.

Have you ever found yourself saying, “Why am I thinking about that?” The fact you separate yourself “why am I” from the thought “thinking that” clearly demonstrates the distinction between you and your thoughts.

You must think about what you are going to think about! It’s your choice, and easier to do, even really fun, once you are aware you can do it.

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC

Deb is Author of the National Four time Award Winner Book in: Self-Help | Motivation | Best New Non-Fiction | Self-Improvement; The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue - , a Certified Professional Coach at Discover the Amazing YOU! Coaching, and host of the Top Rated Best People We Know Show! on Blog Talk Radio. Self HelpRadio

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The Process

 

The "Process"

Instant messaging, fast apps, viral video’s, life on demand.

Is it any wonder you may feel like you’re a total failure if you don’t have a drive through break through to achieving your dreams?

Change, growth, creating a better life, it’s all part of a process.

Consider this:  Do you go outside and plant a seed in the ground expecting it to mature into a full grown tree in twenty minutes? Are you frustrated, filled with negative thoughts or depressed when it doesn’t happen in a moment? No, of course not. Then why would you expect your living human spirit to respond to laws which are made for the technological and mechanical.?

I recently interviewed Rakesh Sarin a researcher and professor from UCLA who discovered after extensive research one of the key factors to experiencing authentic happiness is the individual’s ‘expectations.’

An expectation can be a moving target and enemy shadow tirelessly chasing your peace, contentment and inner joy.

Can you recall a time in your life when you were injured. If you broke your arm or sprained your ankle you automatically had the expectation that it would take time to heal. You were undoubtedly excited and grateful when you saw yourself making progress toward regaining your original condition. You had a new expectation in light of your injury, and therefore a different base line for what made you happy.

Life is a process. Your spiritual growth is a process. Relationships are a process. Learning is a process. Becoming skilled at a task is a process. Healing is a process. If you’re alive, you’re in some stage of a process.

 

"Am I ready yet?"

 

Be gentle with yourself. Whatever goal, dream or vision you have for improving your life takes time. Enjoy the process of becoming. Live in the present moment. Taste it, listen to it, feel it, touch it, breath it in.

It's All A Process

Perhaps if you alter the unrealistic expectation that something more needs to happen for life the way it is to be a success, you will suddenly find yourself exchanging stressful restlessness for loving patience.

Next time you feel frustrated that something isn’t happening fast enough for you, remember that your agenda is merely a pre-mediated expectation which hasn’t been given a truthful reality check yet.

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC

Deb is Author of the National Four time Award Winner Book in: Self-Help | Motivation | Best New Non-Fiction | Self-Improvement; The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue - , a Certified Professional Coach at Discover the Amazing YOU! Coaching, and host of the Top Rated Best People We Know Show! on Blog Talk Radio. Self HelpRadio

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The Pumpkin Plan Method

A Gigantic Business Lesson From A Gigantic Pumpkin

Special Guest Blog Post by Mike Michalowicz

Mike Michalowicz

Ordinary pumpkins are kinda, well, ordinary. When Halloween comes around you likely go to the farm to pick out a nice round one for the porch. But besides that, you pay little attention to pumpkins. That is until you see a story of a mammoth pumpkin in the local paper. You know what I am talking about; one of those prize winning, nearly a ton, behemoth pumpkins.

Those guys (and gals) who grow them? They have a secret, a business secret that you need to know to grow your own colossal success.

Here is their strategy:

Step One: Start with promising seeds. The record-breaking pumpkin farmer is highly selective of his seeds and always picks the ones that have the best growth potential. Similarly, a wildly successful business starts with a promising seed. Instead of trying to take advantage of the latest trend or trying to convert a hobby into a business, the successful entrepreneur launches a business at the intersection of their passion, strong customer demand and their ability to systematize the entire process. When these three elements overlap, the entrepreneur has found their giant seed.

Step Two: Feed the strong sprouts and disregard the weak. The first sign of a gigantor pumpkin is a strong, healthy sprout. The farmer focuses on caring for these promising pumpkins and ignores the other less promising sprouts. In similar fashion, the most successful businesses focus on growing their best clients and the similar prospects. The “weak” customers and prospects that distract, demand and disregard are turned away or referred to a competitor.

Lessons From The Giant Pumpkin


Step Three:
Use less water, more often. A farmer of ordinary pumpkins dumps the same amount of water on each plant, once a day. It’s too much water for the moment, and evaporates way too quickly. Effectively the plant drowns for an hour and is dehydrated for the rest of the day. A farmer of mammoth pumpkins waters her plants regularly in smaller amounts, adequately quenching its thirst frequently, sometimes as often as five or six times a day.

Entrepreneurs grow their businesses quickly by using the same strategy. Instead of running a broad one-size-fits-all marketing campaign once, they run a steady “drip” campaign targeted at their best prospects and clients for years. This persistent niche presence makes the entrepreneur’s company the perceived leader, because to the targeted prospect, they are everywhere.

Step Four: Focus on the root system. While the whole pumpkin plant has importance, the root system provides the steady stream of water and nutrients the plant needs to live. A few days without sun and the plant will survive. A few days without the root system and the plant is rotting in the field. The farmer of colossal pumpkins focuses on a healthy root for the entire life of the plant.

For entrepreneurs the root system that “feeds the business” is a steady referral source. Instead of asking for referrals from clients (which, if any, typically yields bad leads), the entrepreneur behind a colossally successful business concentrates his efforts on generating leads through complementary vendors. A growing, complementary vendor network is the strongest root system a colossal business can ever have.

Step Five: Relentless pruning and weeding. Those who grow extraordinary pumpkins ensure that not a single weed grows in the patch, because every time a weed starts to sprout it takes away water and light from the colossal pumpkin. Smaller pumpkins on the colossal vine are an even more insidious threat. That’s right—if a pumpkin is small, weak or showing blight, the farmer kills it instantly to ensure the colossal pumpkin gets all of the nutrients.

Similarly, the entrepreneur who grows mammoth, industry-dominating businesses has a maniacal “kill” strategy. Often the weeds and diseased pumpkins blocking an entrepreneur’s path to success are labeled as “opportunities.” The successful entrepreneur kills any new distraction or “opportunity” that does not serve their “colossal pumpkin” as soon as it appears.

Even colossal pumpkins die eventually. This is the nature of the game (or is it “the game of nature?”), yet death doesn’t phase the colossal pumpkin farmer. When the pumpkin dies, they come back harder next season with a brand new seed with “great pumpkin” potential.

The New Classic

Colossally successful entrepreneurs show this exact same trait. Even if they follow formula detailed in my new book, The Pumpkin Plan, some ideas, products or services run their course. And when this happens, just like the blue-ribbon pumpkin farmer, the “Pumpkin Plan” entrepreneurs reappear next season with a new super seed.

While following The Pumpkin Plan yields successes more often than not, it is not a guaranteed success; there are no guarantees in farming, or in business. The only thing you can be sure of is, when you set out to grow ordinary anything, be it pumpkins or businesses, you’ll end up with just that: ordinary. You can never build colossal success on something ordinary. Guaranteed.

The Pumpkin Plan is a method that shoots for the moon, which if nothing else, will at least land you a few stars. And on a few occasions, when luck is on your side, you will defy what is “possible” and grow the biggest winner of the season.

By Mike Michalowicz, author of The Pumpkin Plan

 

Radical Self-Acceptance

 

Self Love

Radical Self-AcceptanceWhat is it and why do you need to do it?

Barbra White, founder of the “Accept Me As I Am” Healing Center, will take you on a gentle journey of healing, meditation and complete acceptance in this recent show segment.

 

“Through self-acceptance healing, Barbra uses intuitive guidance and universal principles to assist you to heal while increasing your level of self-understanding and consciousness.”

 “Self-acceptance ignites change and is the core of true healing.” ~ Barbra White
( From the Book:  Why Self Acceptance is so Powerful )

Barbra White

Barbra White

Barbra uses her 5 Spiritual Principles in teaching and working with her individual clients.

The Five Spiritual Principles

Reflecting the perennial wisdom of the ages, these principles are found at the heart of the world’s spiritual traditions. When embodied and integrated into our daily spiritual growth practice, they are a pathway to self-realization, and a conscious state of oneness with Spirit.

1.  God is an unconditionally loving God.
2.  God is love. God is omnipresent, omnipotent and omniactive.
3.  Every person is an individual expression of God.
4.  Every person is responsible for their own evolution.
5.  The universe is continually expanding.

 

Barbra White's Newest Book

For a complete description of these principles and more about Barbra White,
or how to connect with her personally to help you step into your sparkle,
visit her at Self acceptance Healing or  call (734) 455-1438, or e-mail barbra@acceptedasiam.com

 

10 Tips to Making Good Decisions

By Certified Coach
Deb Scott 

 

“Should I, or shouldn’t I?”

The question is not if you must make decisions, but how to make  good decisions.

Here are my Top 10 Tips to Make Good Decisions.

 

 Making Good Decisions

 

1  Write down the Objective.

What is it you ultimately want to accomplish.  Get a new job, move or start a business is not specific enough.  The objective should be clearly stated in a way which describes the benefits of achieving the goal.  “I want to move to a warm climate where I can engage in outdoor activities year round and simply my life with a lower cost of living.”  VS “I want to move.”

2.  Collect Facts:  Good AND Bad

Do your Homework and gather all the information, good and bad, like and dislike.  You are not making the decision here, just a sound assessment of all your options for consideration.  There is no rush to get through this critical step.  Researcher Paul Nutt states, “Only 1 in 10 decisions is urgent. Only 1 in 100 is a crisis. You have time to reflect.”   The more time you take to gather all the information, the better your decision is likely to be.

3. List Possible Consequences of Decision

Brain storm all the possible outcomes of each decision and choice.  Detach from the emotion – focus on all the possibilities.  What would happen if? How would I feel if?   Listing extreme positives and negatives at this stage is a good idea.

4. Do a Gut Check

Now that you have completed the above steps, sit in a quiet spot where you will not be disturbed and visualize each scenario you have listed.  How does you gut feel?  Is your stomach in knots?  Is your heart beating with excitement?  Pay attentions to what your body is telling you and write it down.

5. Don’t Over Think

Avoid placing judgement on what you have written down.  Be open to the fact you might not know, what you don’t know.

6.  Make the Decision

Review the good work you have completed and tabulate what choice brings you the most favorable results, along with the most positive physical gut reaction.  These facts will lead you to the best choice.  remember, the best choice is not the perfect choice.  There is no perfect choice.

7. Stick with Your Decision

Once you have made your decision, trust the process.  Follow-through to the end, because you don’t want to give up 5 minutes before the miracle.

8.  Give Yourself Permission to Navigate the Unexpected

Be sensible in the sense you must give yourself permission to navigate differently in the event of an unexpected crisis.  Obviously ‘life is happening while you make other plans’, so know that even the best thought out plan will be altered in the face of earth quakes and funerals.

9.  Review and Assess

Take time to review and asses your progress often.  This will encourage you to continue when you are able to validate positive results, and tweak your direction as needed to maintain forward momentum.

10. No Regrets

Regardless of what you expected your decision to create, congratulate yourself that you made the best decision possible with the information you had available to you at the time.  There is not a person alive, and especially some of the greatest successes in history, who hasn’t had the opportunity to learn from a decision.

Following these 10 tips allows you to follow a logical process of consequences based on completion of each task.  The answers unfold naturally for you, rather than you struggling to make something fit where it does not belong.

 

 The Rational Planning Model

 

“The rational planning model is the process of realizing a problem, establishing and evaluating planning criteria, creating alternatives, implementing alternatives, and monitoring progress of the alternatives. It is used in designing neighborhoods, cities, and regions. The rational planning model is central in the development of modern urban planning and transportation planning.”

Remember, good decision-making is a skill, and like any skill it can be learned.  The more you practice this process of good decision-making, the more skilled you will become at making good decisions every day!

 

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Best Poem in the World

Open Your Mind to Open Your Heart

BEST POEM IN THE WORLD

I was shocked , confused, bewildered
As I entered Heaven’s door,
Not by the beauty of it all,
Nor the lights or its decor.

But it was the folks in Heaven
Who made me sputter and gasp–
The thieves, the liars, the sinners,
The alcoholics and the trash.

There stood the kid from seventh grade
Who swiped my lunch money twice.
Next to him was my old neighbor
Who never said anything nice.

Bob, who I always thought
Was rotting away in hell,
Was sitting pretty on cloudnine,
Looking incredibly well.

I nudged Jesus, ‘What’s the deal?
I would love to hear Your take.
How’d all these sinners get up here?
God must’ve made a mistake.

‘And why is everyone so quiet,
So somber – give me a clue.’
‘Hush, child,’ He said,
‘they’re all in shock.
No one thought they’d be seeing you.’

Author Unknown

 

What Does This Say To You?

If you’re like me, you’re feeling a rush of emotional shock right now with that last line.

Judge not and you will not be judged.  Many saints were sinners, and many sinners became great saints.

What message does this poem say to you?

 

 

 

 

Deb Scott, BA, CPC

Deb is Author of the National Four time Award Winner Book in: Self-Help | Motivation | Best New Non-Fiction | Self-Improvement; The Sky is Green and The Grass is Blue - , a Certified Professional Coach at Discover the Amazing YOU! Coaching, and host of the Top Rated Best People We Know Show! on Blog Talk Radio. Self HelpRadio

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Clear the Fear

Are you one of the 5 million estimated Americans who experiences the emotional and often devastating effects of fear related stress?

“According to the National Institute of Mental Health, 19 million people in the United States alone suffer from mental illnesses that involve irrational fear responses. These disorders include generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder and post-traumatic stress disorder.”

Clear the Fear

Do you ever feel paralyzed by fear?
Fear to change yourself, your career, your relationships?
Fear to try something new?
Fear of failure, loss or even what people might think of you?

Yes, everyone experiences fear to some degree, but not everyone uses fear as a stepping stone instead of a stumbling block.

 

Making Fear a Friend.

At the end of this article our goal is to provide you with tangible tools to:

1. Accurately define what Fear is and what Fear is not.

2. Understand Clinical Data about Fear and Successful Studies how to Overcome Fear.

3. Exercises to help you Clear the Fear from a negative obstacle into a positive opportunity.

 

Are you Born with Fear?

By definition, everyone experiences fear. “It is a distressing negative sensation induced by a perceived threat. It is a basic survival mechanism occurring in response to a specific stimulus, such as pain or the threat of danger.” Fear is a necessary survival mechanism in all human beings.

Anxiety- is future-oriented fear because we cannot control what will happen next.

Panic- is becoming intimidated by something that reminds a person of their fear, creating an alarm response.

Physiological changes in the body associated with fear, the “fight or flight” response, can include:

Rapid heart rate
Increased blood pressure
Tightening of muscles
Increased sweating

 

Good Fear VS Bad Fear

Good fear serves a good purpose. For example, if you have to give a major presentation to a group of professionals at your place of work, fear can motivate you to sharpen your skills to practice and deliver an excellent presentation.

Bad Fear is when fear becomes irrational and excessive, it can become crippling and instigate a cascade of destructive feelings, thoughts and behaviors.

 

Name a personal experience of Good Fear and Bad Fear below:

Good Fear____________________________________________________

Bad Fear_____________________________________________________

 

Creating Fear

“In the 1920s, American psychologist John Watson taught an infant to fear white rats. “Little Albert” had no fear of the laboratory’s test animals. He showed joy at the sight of the white rats especially and always reached out for them. Watson and his assistant taught Albert to be terrified of white rats. They used Pavlovian (classical) conditioning, pairing a neutral stimulus (the rat) with a negative effect. Whenever Albert reached for one of the rats, they created a terrifyingly loud noise right behind the 11-month-old child. Not only did Albert very quickly learn to fear the white rats, crying and moving away whenever he saw one, but he also started to cry in the presence of other furry animals and a Santa Claus mask with a white beard.”

“Like Little Albert’s fear of white rats, a person’s fear of dogs is most likely a conditioned response. Perhaps he was bitten by a dog when he was three years old. Twenty years later, the person’s brain (the amygdala in particular) still associates the sight of a dog with the pain of a bite.”

 

Clearing the Fear

Fear extinction is creating a positive conditioned response that counteracts the negative fear response, usually involving exposure to an outside stimuli. However, scientists have discovered ” stimulating a protein called NMDA (N-methyl D-asparate) in the amygdala can enhance fear extinction.”

Identify a fear you want to eliminate and re-frame:

_____________________________________________________________

"I Want to Clear Away this Fear"

Kerry Ressler, associate professor in the department of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Emory University is studying the biology of fear. And the impact of a neurotrophic factor known as BDNF. “We’re studying how the biology of the brain is changed by the environment, and how these changes underlie memories and experiences.”

Stumbling Blocks into Stepping Stones

The Prevention magazine article “What are you afraid of?: 8 secrets that make fear disappear” offers these tips for dealing with everyday fears:

  1. It doesn’t matter why you’re scared.
    Knowing why you’ve developed a particular fear doesn’t do much to help you overcome it, and it delays your progress in areas that will actually help you become less afraid. Stop trying to figure it out.
  2. Learn about the thing you fear.
    Uncertainty is a huge component of fear: Developing an understanding of what you’re afraid of goes a long way toward erasing that fear.
  3. Train.
    If there’s something you’re afraid to try because it seems scary or difficult, start small and work in steps. Slowly building familiarity with a scary subject makes it more manageable.
  4. Find someone who is not afraid.
    If there’s something you’re afraid of, find someone who is not afraid of that thing and spend time with that person. Take her along when you try to conquer your fear — it’ll be much easier.
  5. Talk about it.
    Sharing your fear out loud can make it seem much less daunting.
  6. Play mind games with yourself.
    If you’re afraid of speaking in front of groups, it’s probably because you think the audience is going to judge you. Try imagining the audience members naked — being the only clothed person in the room puts you in the position of judgment.
  7. Stop looking at the grand scheme.
    Think only about each successive step. If you’re afraid of heights, don’t think about being on the fortieth floor of a building. Just think about getting your foot in the lobby.
  8. Seek help.
    Fear is not a simple emotion. If you’re having trouble overcoming your fear on your own, find a professional to help you. There are lots of treatments for fear out there, and no good reason not to try them under the guidance of someone with training and experience

 

Accepting fear is part of the human condition, being able to identify good fear from bad fear, understanding the science behind the cycle of fear, and what you can do to reframe your fear to work for you, instead of against you, is all possible for you with a little help from your friends.

Love and Blessings,

Deb Scott, BA, CPC  and Elizabeth Hamilton-Guarino, BA, CPC

 

“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”
Eleanor Roosevelt

 

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